Can't make friends.. Help?

[Anonymous1234]

Hey, well, I'm not sure if anyone else has this same problem but when I start getting close to somebody or more then an aquaintance that I occasionally say hello to I tend to get the feeling that they don't really want to be my friend and that they are just being nice by not saying anything. I tend to slowly break away fearing that I'm trapping them in a friendship they don't really want. I know this can't be the case all the time but I can't get rid of the feeling and it makes it hard to enjoy myself when hanging out with people. Does anyone know what this could be or how I could get past this? Id really appreciate it.

 

[futurecatlady]

I feel like this a lot. Usually the only thing keeping me from feeling this way is a drink or two, or if someone explicitly gives me special attention. I get more reserved, often angry, and that just drives people farther away. I was looking through pictures the other day, and I saw so many where I look like such a grump in a crowd of happy people, and I remember feeling exactly as you feel. It's no good, though--the best thing to do is to try to be yourself and open; that way you don't run the risk of scaring away the people who do want to be your friend.

 

[kinley121]

I think the problem here is that he is bothered a lot about the response of others. I think it is a useless thing to do. I would advise him to talk to new people. He should try to be an extrovert rather than an introvert. It is immaterial whether they want his friendship or not. The most important thing for him is to make the effort. He should make it a habit to go out and talk to people.