Compared to Others

[That Guy]

I recently got in touch with an ex-girlfriend who I haven't spoken to in 2 years. I don't know why I did it. I was curious to see how she was. I was hoping she would tell me she was in just as bad a position as I was. What I heard shocked me.

She is doing very well. Only a year after graduation she landed her dream job, has a new car, makes good money, and has a boyfriend she cohabitates with (and obviously has sex with). Her only complaint was that she had a long commute to work.

And me? I'm working a miserable job, I can't pay my bills, I don't know what I want to do with my life, and I haven't had a date or sex in 3 years. I am so miserable I can barely function. I want to just lay down and die.

It seems everyone I know has got everything together except me. They all have good-paying careers, wives or girlfriends, and they all seem generally happy. There are some people who are going through rough spots but most at least seem confident that they can work through their problems.

Every time I hear about someone else's life it feels like a knife in my stomach. I feel like a complete loser. I can't even feed myself and these people are on the track to happiness and success. I feel like I just want to die.

Maybe someone else out there knows what it is like?

 

[SadRabbit]

I know how you feel. I am having like the same stuff. My ex classmates, their lives have improved, gotten a girlfriend, gotten fitter, grades improved. For me, it just gets opposites, my grades are spirialing downwards continously year after year, I am still as unfit as ever, I have never had a girlfriend for 22 years...talk about sex. I become so numb in life....and it has become so bad, that when i am depressed, I don't cry anymore, no one will be there for me. My family is too preoccupied by their stuff. I just lay and die. I am way worse of than you.

 

[Whoaisme]

Want help?

Step one: Pay off ALL outstanding debts. Do this first and as quickly as possible. If you are unable to complete this step move to step two.
Step two: Find a new job, if you cannot find one in your area then save enough for three months rent somewhere and relocate! (yep, just sell everything and move)
Step three: Save your money, get physically fit. Make a goal and reach it, with no exceptions.
Step four: find something regular to do that involves both men and women. ie going to the gym, find something and do it.

You need to sit down and plan your own personal path to success. What do you want and what will it take to get that?!

 

[Blue Sky]

I recently got in touch with an ex-girlfriend who I haven't spoken to in 2 years. I don't know why I did it. I was curious to see how she was. I was hoping she would tell me she was in just as bad a position as I was. What I heard shocked me.

She is doing very well. Only a year after graduation she landed her dream job, has a new car, makes good money, and has a boyfriend she cohabitates with (and obviously has sex with). Her only complaint was that she had a long commute to work.

And me? I'm working a miserable job, I can't pay my bills, I don't know what I want to do with my life, and I haven't had a date or sex in 3 years. I am so miserable I can barely function. I want to just lay down and die.

It seems everyone I know has got everything together except me. They all have good-paying careers, wives or girlfriends, and they all seem generally happy. There are some people who are going through rough spots but most at least seem confident that they can work through their problems.

Every time I hear about someone else's life it feels like a knife in my stomach. I feel like a complete loser. I can't even feed myself and these people are on the track to happiness and success. I feel like I just want to die.

Maybe someone else out there knows what it is like?

I agree with Whoaisme on this one, you need to set some goals and get some motivation into your life, and to me it sounds like you really want to achieve. If you dont think you can do this on your own, I'm sure that other members on the forum could help you put some postitive steps into your life.