Coping stratagies?

[dannyr22]

I have a very lonely life and find it hard to cope. What things do you do to cope with life if you are lonely and have nobody?

 

[Felix]

There are activities that sort of 'force' you to interact with people, that should make you feel a bit les lonley. Sports like basket, rugby, soccer... or martial arts. There are other activities also like dancing, painting can also be good. That gets you arund people at least.

Other things I do are going to online forums and I play an instrument. Also drawing and ocasionally painting helps me. It certainly helps to find an interest and it's also something to talk about with others.

 

[Poguesy]

http://www.alonelylife.com/thread-what-do-you-do-to-feel-good?pid=374735#pid374735

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Have you ever had or watched hamster or rats in a cages???
They run on that wheel that gose nowhere.

Thats what happen when humans locked themselves in a cage.

 

[Okiedokes]

Stick my face in a book. That's one thing that I found out that works nicely.. (Did I mention I used to hate reading fiction books till I tried them again 2 years ago? yeah..)

Also just doing any kind of project or somehow doing someone a favor for someone is nice.

And of course..the internet.

 

[LoneKiller]

Martial Arts. It gives you self respect, a positive outlook,
and gives you goals to work toward. You will also feel more confident walking down the street at late hours.

 

[dannyr22]

http://www.alonelylife.com/thread-what-do-you-do-to-feel-good?pid=374735#pid374735

I don't like whisky

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Martial Arts. It gives you self respect, a positive outlook,
and gives you goals to work toward. You will also feel more confident walking down the street at late hours.

Is it free to learn though? In the UK? Always been a thing to try

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Have you ever had or watched hamster or rats in a cages???
They run on that wheel that gose nowhere.

Thats what happen when humans locked themselves in a cage.

Sooo true. But even if I go out in the city centre where everybody is I'm still alone, it makes it worse

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Sooo true. But even if I go out in the city centre where everybody is I'm still alone, it makes it worse

It dosnt make it worst. It only feels like it for a little while becuase you're body and mind is out of your old comfortzone.

Do you know how many times I've walked to the peer
(where a lot of people hangout) and just sat alone
on the bench????

You do know how times Ive walked alone on the beach
with my toe in the sands and waves to my knees
or just take a blanket and lay on the beach alone?
Wishing the love of my life was with me...

You do know how many times I've walked the streets
alone or had dinner alone during the evening while
there's plenty of people hanging out with family and friends?

Ive lost count....

And after forcing myself to go out more.
This is what Ive notice and observed ?????
There's plenty of people walking the peers alone, lying on the beach alone, walking alone, having dinner alone..ect
Every now and then, I do manage to bump into these people.

So whatever excuses you're willing to come up with...
Ive been there...Ive isolated myself before.
I also knew i had to take certain steps to change my life.
I also experinced the crazy crap my mind will play on me to try to get me to isolate again...such as envy.
Ive also experince those ****** up uneasy feelings as i was making changes in my life.

Its as simple as when you first step into a hot bath...at first you feel uncomfortiable
becuase you're mind and body havnt adjusted to the difference in water temperture....
The samething is happening with you're mind and body (just at a slower pace) when
you're making changes in your life.

If you have this forsite...you're not going to freakout so much as your mind and body
makes adjustment or adapt.

 

[whispers]

I agree with lonesome crow. Going out there is hard but it will help, especialy if you do the same thing at the same place at the same time. Ex, my friend takes a morning walk before work, she always crooses paths with the same people, at first they ignored each other, then started saying hi, now shes getting smiles, small conversations and even invitations for coffee. Give it time, and if you do look around, alot of people are alone, so you dont have to worry about standing out.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Everyone is different. Find things that interest you and occupy your time, hobbies, clubs, whatever makes you feel comfortable and keeps you occupied. Just don't get into online games, those suck up so much of your time. lol