Dealing with social cravings?

[Jently]

Had *** with too many strangers. Ididn't enjoy it but for that short time I wasn't alone..................actually I was, but I kidded myself I wasn't.
Thank God I came to my senses and stopped doing that, but am still very lonely so it solved nothing.

 

[Ilvatresbien]

It never used to bother.  I was so focused in my life on my career, school, etc that i really didn't realize that i was missing anything.  I have done a lot of things in my life and have accomplished a lot on a lot of levels.  However, I finally realized i didnt' have a vast circle of people like others seems to.  Maybe some people just don't.

Story of my life! I never knew I had an issue until I was 22 (at the end of college) and so deperately lonely...

Most of the time, yes. However, trying to do anything social with anyone is more of a hassle anymore to where it's not worth it. What happened to simply hanging out with friends instead of having to almost plan it almost a week out? :/

Not only that but all I ever do is visit relatives, but I've become a 3rd wheel at everything. Everyone else is talking about their lives while I pretty much don't have a life.

Yes, that's another downside of being around people who've got active social lives. It just augments your own loneliness and makes you feel worse and yet you are around people...smh

Find some activity to allows you to put some smile on someone else's lips It seems we find happiness by making others happy Reduce activity that keep you away from ppl Join volunteer groups if there are any around you, go out to parks and shows you fancy And best of it all, learn to recreate your personality to become cheerful and become d type ppl like to be around The more ppl you generally get to mix with, d higher d tendency of you meeting d right ppl

There lies the solution but it takes the motivation of a thousand cattle pulling plows for me to just get up the social energy to call someone I haven't talked to in a week...let alone planning to go out!