HellsLittleAngel
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Do you call, text, or see your friends and loved ones out of boredom, loneliness, or because you genuinely want to talk and see them?
Do You Do Any of These Behaviors?
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TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Genuinely want to talk.
But I'm an admittedly bad correspondent.
I need time to myself to do stuff around here.
Also my life isn't that eventful so I need time to replenish my convo material.
I used to text more often when I was younger.
But I'm an admittedly bad correspondent.
I need time to myself to do stuff around here.
Also my life isn't that eventful so I need time to replenish my convo material.
I used to text more often when I was younger.
HellsLittleAngel
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You don't seem like a bad correspondent on here, lol. But, I like your answer. It's authentic and genuine.
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
No, I really am, it's a big problem with me.
I'm flying high on caffeine all day.
In fact I should probably peace out and take care of business for a bit now.
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Thanks, I try to be.
Like you said on that other thread I have been more passive and people pleasing in the past.
It has taken me time to learn to speak my truth/articulate myself more -
to walk the line between "nice", and "punk". Lol.
Ok but I really should go for a bit then.
HellsLittleAngel
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Okay, I hope you have a good night.
HellsLittleAngel
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You're welcome. Some people are more passive and people-pleasers than others.
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
It was day, I also live in the US. Just had to unplug for a bit.
HellsLittleAngel
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Well, hope you had a better day, as well as night. We all need to unplug. Some can get lost in the world of devices.
always, but it's a short list.
HellsLittleAngel
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I'm asking which one of those you do, or do you do all of them?
the bit i quoted from your OP
HellsLittleAngel
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That's a genuine and good answer.
well if i don't make the effort, i would never see or converse with them because they never seem to reciprocate the action
HellsLittleAngel
Well-known member
I don't bother with those who don't bother with me. Friendship works both ways. I know people who just message me when they need something or bored, vs. genuine people. I just watch their actions and laugh. I don't even engage anymore.
i get that, but then i wouldn't have anyone at all.
HellsLittleAngel
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Everyone's different. I don't contact those who don't bother with me, and those who use me. I'm good, all set. I never contact someone out of boredom or loneliness. I'm never either or. But, still, I'm authentic and my friendships are genuine. I contact people because I genuinely want to talk or see them.
you're lucky then. i do have a couple of friendships that i cherish, but they're just useless at remembering i'm alive. they've got many people in their lives and things to keep them occupied.
HellsLittleAngel
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I never give anyone the time of day who uses me. I'm all set with that. I don't even put up with that behavior.
remember, this is mainly a loneliness forum, so for some of us we're beggars who can't be choosers. it's not that i'm being mistreated by them and if I reached out for help they would gladly give it, but I'm just not in their A-list I guess is the best way to put it. It's not like I don't get anything from the relationship, it's just not really on my terms for the most part.
