0mgofhappiness
Well-known member
It's hard to get yourself back out there after a divorce, you may meet someone, but it doesn't go quite as you expected? So, the best way to be is not expect anything, I have found that when you expect the person that you love to love you back, it doesn't happen that way. It's a trap! I have found throughout, my 20 years give or take years of dating, that we take those that love us genuinely for granted. Some won't admit but after a number of years we fall into a comfort zone, then the thrilling side of the relationship begins to falter.
Now it has become all too easy for mostly men, but women too to 'shop around'. I wouldn't put all the blame on the men, women are more deadlier than the male and lets not forget that men have been paying for sex since the dawn of time. Online has made that easier, the relationships i have had, others have had have broken down due to the anon' of secret dating sites. it could be argued that if this wasn't available there would be less cases of adultery.
But now these women that are incredibly beautiful are monetized, men are itching at the knees to get hold of them, much to the detriment of a woman that doesn't need to paid for, she is willing to give her love for free, but then the guy see's a woman that by far surpasses his expectations and he can now 'afford her' it wont be real love, it will be a transaction, does it feel the same, or is he just in it for the thrill, show her off to his mates. compare her like a new car.
Sadly this is the way the world is going, leaving middle aged women at the bottom of the barrel, I probably wouldnt be writing this if I still had my looks, if I had my post baby body. But the harsh reality is, men seek out perfection now they can buy it, they dont care, as long as they get the girl if you like. Why not? if you can afford to buy it, then go for it? does it feel the same though? knowing that you have basically just brought a human being? I guess so, you get what you pay for right? The woman is treated like a princess so she isnt going to complain, I guess if you offer your love for free a woman will be treated like dog right? so if a man is prepared to pay for love, he is getting a product rather than the real thing. Depends what you want really, you could argue the point to him, he will wind up telling you
"Well you became **** in bed, I had no choice, she came along and filled that void for me" I have experienced that. its not nice, so atre men only in relationships nowadays for thrill rather than companionship and true feeling? Yes relationshiops should be thrilling. If he is willing to pay for a lover, long term, shirt term, he is in control, almost taking away her control. She will see him as her master, is that love? it's respect for sure. Is there anyine om here that is in a relationship that feel like a transaction? you get the thrills and spills in the bedroom for X amount of hours, it may last a couple of years, but when that thrill ends, what then, will he buy love again?
The relationship ended. he could afford the cream of the crop only for me to be left with, "It's not my fault you are too old" no denying that but he said that while he walked off with his new twenty year old lover, staring me in the face, rubbing my nose in it. So be careful, there are men out there that can have any woman they want because they have a fat wallet and women will satisfy that need. Its her body in exchange for his cash. Where is the substance? Surely the lack of true love will cause issues here? Do they think about that when he has brought her another castle, or another car?
So Now people are products what happened to society? It is fine if you have a great body, its fine if you have left uni with a degree, we were not to know that dating would become all but a game when we were leaving school in the 90's. A human degrades, we don't last forever, and maybe so after a divorce and a long lineof failed relationships, we may stop knowing what to do in the bedroom. Well huge apologies for just being human.
Now it has become all too easy for mostly men, but women too to 'shop around'. I wouldn't put all the blame on the men, women are more deadlier than the male and lets not forget that men have been paying for sex since the dawn of time. Online has made that easier, the relationships i have had, others have had have broken down due to the anon' of secret dating sites. it could be argued that if this wasn't available there would be less cases of adultery.
But now these women that are incredibly beautiful are monetized, men are itching at the knees to get hold of them, much to the detriment of a woman that doesn't need to paid for, she is willing to give her love for free, but then the guy see's a woman that by far surpasses his expectations and he can now 'afford her' it wont be real love, it will be a transaction, does it feel the same, or is he just in it for the thrill, show her off to his mates. compare her like a new car.
Sadly this is the way the world is going, leaving middle aged women at the bottom of the barrel, I probably wouldnt be writing this if I still had my looks, if I had my post baby body. But the harsh reality is, men seek out perfection now they can buy it, they dont care, as long as they get the girl if you like. Why not? if you can afford to buy it, then go for it? does it feel the same though? knowing that you have basically just brought a human being? I guess so, you get what you pay for right? The woman is treated like a princess so she isnt going to complain, I guess if you offer your love for free a woman will be treated like dog right? so if a man is prepared to pay for love, he is getting a product rather than the real thing. Depends what you want really, you could argue the point to him, he will wind up telling you
"Well you became **** in bed, I had no choice, she came along and filled that void for me" I have experienced that. its not nice, so atre men only in relationships nowadays for thrill rather than companionship and true feeling? Yes relationshiops should be thrilling. If he is willing to pay for a lover, long term, shirt term, he is in control, almost taking away her control. She will see him as her master, is that love? it's respect for sure. Is there anyine om here that is in a relationship that feel like a transaction? you get the thrills and spills in the bedroom for X amount of hours, it may last a couple of years, but when that thrill ends, what then, will he buy love again?
The relationship ended. he could afford the cream of the crop only for me to be left with, "It's not my fault you are too old" no denying that but he said that while he walked off with his new twenty year old lover, staring me in the face, rubbing my nose in it. So be careful, there are men out there that can have any woman they want because they have a fat wallet and women will satisfy that need. Its her body in exchange for his cash. Where is the substance? Surely the lack of true love will cause issues here? Do they think about that when he has brought her another castle, or another car?
So Now people are products what happened to society? It is fine if you have a great body, its fine if you have left uni with a degree, we were not to know that dating would become all but a game when we were leaving school in the 90's. A human degrades, we don't last forever, and maybe so after a divorce and a long lineof failed relationships, we may stop knowing what to do in the bedroom. Well huge apologies for just being human.
