Does anyone else feel this way?

[user 188685]

What is the point of life?I get the fact that your supposed to find someone and be happy,but I just don't see the point to that,I will never be happy with my life,does anyone else feel this way too?

 

[TheRealCallie]

Why won't you ever be happy?

 

[user 188522]

When I was younger, I felt like you. Then I discovered happiness could be a choice. I found happiness in my pets.

 

[user 135671]

Imo there's so much more to life than " find someone and be happy ". I'm happiest on a deserted beach in the sunshine all by my lonesome with just a guitar for company

 

[user 188685]

When I was younger, I felt like you. Then I discovered happiness could be a choice. I found happiness in my pets.

I know that feeling,my pets bring me so much happiness,they can bring you so much happiness more than any person can.

 

[user 188685]

Why won't you ever be happy?

this is a long story,it's just my life,with just how my life is,I just really hate my life.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I just really hate my life.

So change it.

Yeah, I get it. "It's not that simple" "I can't, I tried" There are a million things you can say to that, but they are all just excuses. It IS that simple, it's just not easy, but just because something isn't easy doesn't mean it shouldn't be done or that it won't be worth it.

Figure out what you can change in your life and change it. Start small and work your way up. Figure out what you can't change and accept it, find a way to work around it. But, the first thing that needs to change is the negativity. Find some positives and let those feed you. (You still have to eat food, though )

 

[ManDss]

Sorry you feel like that. Personally I have lot of problems, that are not easy to be solved, and life has turned nothing as I expected, everyday I feel down by the life I have to live, and that things are not easily going to chanche, and all is gonna be hard,

but Im quite optimistic. Even with so much bad I feel things could get better, and I try to bear wlth all this.

Im not sure what are your problems, hope you find a way to feel good.

 

[Searcher]

What is the point of life?I get the fact that your supposed to find someone and be happy,but I just don't see the point to that,I will never be happy with my life,does anyone else feel this way too?

Life (awareness) is like a lucid dream that arises from nothing and disappears back to nothing. You don't need a point. It is an amazing chance that you ever exist at all. Why not appreciate it while you are here. It doesn't last long.

 

[user 188685]

Life (awareness) is like a lucid dream that arises from nothing and disappears back to nothing. You don't need a point. It is an amazing chance that you ever exist at all. Why not appreciate it while you are here. It doesn't last long.

True

 

[rjisbyhimself]

I still have those feelings from time-to-time.

If you are expecting on getting happiness from others it will be a constant disappointment. I have realized that the only way for me to be any kind of happy is by doing certain things that I am good at and if I have to be by myself to do those things then that is OK.

Find out what your strong points are and focus on those. No need to impress anyone. Challenge yourself and you will be impressed.

 

[Keep_Going]

I think happiness is contentment with what is and accepting what you can't change. The world and other people will never 100% align with my expectations and i've had to learn to accept that and work within the confines.

 

[constant stranger]

My thinking and exploring my feelings orbit around the issues of not enjoying much of anything, not having any close personal relationships and what's the point of being alive at all? Every day these considerations roll around in my head.
What to do? I think my life is a journey, actually my consciousness is an eternal spiritual entity that is on a journey that this material life is only the current phase of.
My task is to be a little bit more meaningful every day by not harming myself or anybody or anything else....as much as is reasonably possible (....I swat flies and mosquitoes and I'll trap mice in the basement, but I tell them 'sorry about this'....) And I make an effort to have an attitude to always be helpful.
That's it....don't bring any more suffering into the world and be helpful.

It's a start. I'd listen to any suggestions.

 

[user 188685]

I still have those feelings from time-to-time.

If you are expecting on getting happiness from others it will be a constant disappointment. I have realized that the only way for me to be any kind of happy is by doing certain things that I am good at and if I have to be by myself to do those things then that is OK.

Find out what your strong points are and focus on those. No need to impress anyone. Challenge yourself and you will be impressed.

very true

 

[lizzieBee85]

I feel the same, i feel pointless. I don’t mind spending time by myself, I live by myself but it gets to a point where I just feel so alone. I’ve been single for 4 years, and feel forgotten by my friends, yet I am always there for them.

 

[Finished]

IMO, the point to life is whatever you think it should be. We are brainwashed into finding someone, getting married, having kids, and working until we are old. But, that doesn't work for everybody. It sure didn't work for me.

So, you have to figure out what makes you happy, set that as your goal, and slowly work towards it.

My problem is that I have run out of things that make me happy. So, mostly I just try my best to avoid problems and stress. But, by doing that I continually receed further and further into my hole which limits my possibilities to finding things that make me happy.

 

[user 188685]

IMO, the point to life is whatever you think it should be. We are brainwashed into finding someone, getting married, having kids, and working until we are old. But, that doesn't work for everybody. It sure didn't work for me.

So, you have to figure out what makes you happy, set that as your goal, and slowly work towards it.

My problem is that I have run out of things that make me happy. So, mostly I just try my best to avoid problems and stress. But, by doing that I continually receed further and further into my hole which limits my possibilities to finding things that make me happy.

Agreed

 

[rjisbyhimself]

IMO, the point to life is whatever you think it should be. We are brainwashed into finding someone, getting married, having kids, and working until we are old. But, that doesn't work for everybody. It sure didn't work for me.

So, you have to figure out what makes you happy, set that as your goal, and slowly work towards it.

My problem is that I have run out of things that make me happy. So, mostly I just try my best to avoid problems and stress. But, by doing that I continually receed further and further into my hole which limits my possibilities to finding things that make me happy.

The recycled template of life, as I call it. In my earlier years those very things that are expected of everyone used to cause me much grief. Pushing to get a hold of those things can make someone crash and burn. After hitting 40, none of those things get to me anymore.

I have known some who were severely depressed with their marriages and their job. Either it was not getting along in the marriage or it was not enough time for family because of that good job. Fights, financial problems, substance abuse issues, rejection, loss, divorce, etc. It's hard enough to be single.

 

[user 188685]

The recycled template of life, as I call it. In my earlier years those very things that are expected of everyone used to cause me much grief. Pushing to get a hold of those things can make someone crash and burn. After hitting 40, none of those things get to me anymore.

I have known some who were severely depressed with their marriages and their job. Either it was not getting along in the marriage or it was not enough time for family because of that good job. Fights, financial problems, substance abuse issues, rejection, loss, divorce, etc. It's hard enough to be single.

Yes it is

 

[Sir Joseph]

I was talking with a neighbor 2 days ago about life and serious issues, and he made it clear that he never thinks or worries about such things. He only seeks pleasure for the day, having no interest or desire for any purpose or meaning to life. I find that shallow, sad, and a guaranteed formula for a wasted life. So, I compliment you Sunflowergirl1306 for at least thinking of such things. It's a fair question, but my answer will be quite different from the others.

Despite popular misguided beliefs, the strongest laws of science show that the universe did not create itself, nor did life evolve accidently from non-life chemicals. It's reasonable then to conclude that we were created by some supernatural being outside of the universe's time, space, and matter. Now consider, if such a being were to go to the trouble to create this entire universe and fill it with people reflecting his nature, would it not be for a purpose? And would that purpose not more likely be for his pleasure rather than ours?

I believe that God created us foremost to have a relationship with him. Some people embrace this purpose for their lives and find true peace, joy, and reassuring hope for the future. Others reject it by living only for themselves and never finding satisfaction in life.
Being happy each day is good, but happiness is dependent upon temporary circumstances and ever changing feelings. Perennial joy is what we all need, and that's what a proper relationship with your Creator provides. When you get that right, one's purpose to life and path to follow become more evident, meaningful, and satisfying.