don`t really know how to flirt..

[Lonesome Crow]

especific instructions.
When she gives your money back...
When puts the bills in your hand..
grab her hand gently as shes sliding
her hand back. .

MAKE BODY CONTACT.

Its is how my GF got me.
She mentioned about her tan.
Shes a white chick and Im asian.

Then she stood side by side with
me, Touched her shoulder and arrm
against mine. Then she crack.
corrning ice breaking jokes...
"hey we match..we look good together"

I notice the many braclet she
had on. Then I grab her hand to check out her braclets....an excuse to hold
her hand .
I asked her about her Jewlereis...
The meaning to them...Getting know
her more or just giving something
to say.. Then she pretty much just
talker her head off.lol

We cracked more corny shallow
jokes.

In the midle of that....I complitmented
her...I told her she looks good wiht tan
and that she was cute.

Stuff like...whats she wearing looks GOOD ON HER.....

NOT " u look good in...so and so"

Notice the slight difference..
shes cute no matter what she wears.

 

[paulo]

damn you make it sound so easy.
id love to be able to do that.
but im afraid i cant pull that of just yet.

im not that comfortable with the touching if i dont know people either.

when i get to know someone im not that bad at it all, i think
but it takes me quite a while to get used to someone.
there usually isnt time for that.

Id let her drive my car if she wanted to.
does that work on a girl ??
and what are the chances ill never get it back again

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I used to kicked Jenni's feet slighly
during business meetings..
We had to keep a straight face.
in front of our bosses.hahahaaa

Then we would have to work on projects together. We would
sit SIDE by SIDE...
I d tell her that I made a mistakes
on my work.. So she would lean
into me.to look at my mistakes
Then I would slighty
smell her hair. Then shell look
at me in the eyes and fling her hair a little bit as if she wants me to
kiss her on her neck for a brief moment Her breathing...She took
a deep breath
Stuff like that.
Jenni was very much in love with me before she died......

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Maybe you mght try whistling at babes walking the streets or If you see chcik
you think is good looking.....
We used to do that in HS.

Baby steps to get you to feel more comfortiable.

 

[paulo]

aah dude thats so sad.
im so sorry you had to lose someone that way.

but your right i need to get way more comfortable.
i cant whistle though
but i get your point.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Paulo, are you comfortable with yourself? Because that's honestly the best way. You don't have to pretend or put on an act for someone to like you. I'm certain you're very likable just how you are, and someone will see that and show interest in you.

 

[paulo]

Paulo, are you comfortable with yourself? Because that's honestly the best way. You don't have to pretend or put on an act for someone to like you. I'm certain you're very likable just how you are, and someone will see that and show interest in you.

well yes and no.
i know there are things im not so good at when dealing with people.
so that makes me a little cosiouse and carefull.
specially when i like someone, i dont want to freak em out or give em the wrong impression or something.
so i am pretty comfortable with me.
but when it comes to sertain things like casual conversations or being able to notise if someone might be interested or is just being polite im just not verry confident.
cause i know im not so good at it.

i might be missing some opportunities by being to carefull maybe.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Stage fright kind of thing.

its normal...At least it is for me.
It dosnt just pretains to flirting.

The more practice or expusre
I have at anything...Ill get better
as I go. Make corrections as I go.
Ill go through a learning curve.

Everybody learn at a different pace
and differently. Im more of a visual
and hands on type of learner.

Flirting is just a skill to me.
Its also a deminishing skill.

After Ive get into a long term relationship I stop flirting...
After a break up...Im rusty at flirting.

If I look at it in that light...
Theres nothing wrong with me as a person. Social and flirting skills are
simply just like any skills I can improve upon or let it deminish.


.

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After Jennis death I went anti social.

Upon returning to work my co worker
help me flirt and socialize again.

They knew I wasnt always anti social.
My co workers had no intension of dating me. They all Knew Jenni and I were very close.

My office a manger and the secutary
would flirt with me. Sometimes
the girls would actaully give me a fashion show... As for my opinions.
Ask me to touch thier hair.
Ask if I like the smell of thier perfumes
Allow me to play with ther hands..
Show their nails..etc..etc

Overtime...I felt comfortible interacting wiht women again.

Do you have female friends thats mature enough to help yuu practice?

 

[sadface]

lol you do not need to flirt to make something happen here. the best flirting is when you don't realize its even happening.

what you SHOULD do, is just talk to her....

 

[VanillaCreme]

lol you do not need to flirt to make something happen here. the best flirting is when you don't realize its even happening.

what you SHOULD do, is just talk to her....

Yes.