LonelyInAtl said:
I'm not ashamed to admit I'm too shy to ask someone out. I know I'll get rejected and then it would be weird between us, so I'd rather just keep the status quo.
And no way do I have the nerve or "game" to try to talk to a woman I don't know. No way, no how.
In the other threads you keep talking about your looks being the problem, but here is what (as I suspected) is the real problem.
First, it isn't that hard to talk to women - the trick is to ask them questions to get them to do much of the talking. (Sorry, sexism alert) - women like to talk about themselves, so the more questions you ask them, the more they get to do so. If she says something that is kind of funny or embarrassing (slightly embarrassing, like that she likes Dane Cook) tease her a little about it - "You like Dane Cook..wow, I'm amazed you're willing to admit that". Be ready with a couple of funny/interesting stories in case there is a lull in the conversation - these can be completely irrelevant to the conversation, just start with, "I don't know what made me think of this, but..." It isn't rocket science - it is much the same as a conversation with a guy, just maybe a few different topics, no swearing/sex talk, and the teasing doesn't get out of hand.
If she rejects you, so what - you have lost nothing since you are in the same position as you were before.
And as far as not wanting things to get weird - forget that, let them get weird; if you like the woman in a way other than being her friend, and simply remain her friend without trying, you're still going to feel weird around her.
Just once, I would really like to see is a conversation like this:
(Person #1 tries to kiss Person #2)
Person #2: I don't like you like that.
Person #1: I don't like you in any way except for that.
Now that would make things weird.
