I have no family or friends at all and it's destroying me

[Lanae T.]

I'm from England and lost contact with my family a long time ago. Any friends moved on with their lives. So I've moved around a lot to survive and ended up with no friends or acquaintances at all. It's ruining everything for me

I can't work in the jobs I want because of lack of industrial contacts, I can't go back to study because no academic references. Moving can be hard because no one will be a guarantor. I can't even own a passport anymore because no one will act as a countersignature after it got lost. Which means despite being a lifelong citizen I cannot hold a passport.

What is worse is how bad the damage is to my mental health and sense of being alive. This is really horrible and there is simply no help. I don't want someone to talk to me about joining a book club or volunteering, I am talking about the essential connection you need as a person which everyone needs. Except everyone has walked away and there's no chance of making friends as an adult. Everyone is either at work or too tired afterwards to be bothered.

Being alone almost constantly is leaving me with a very bad level of anxiety. I don't bother with the doctors anymore because they don't take me seriously and there is no point doping myself up. I need to try and build connections but that is impossible. All I can do is try to zone out because this is barely worth living for but as I get older that is becoming harder to do.

I spend all my energy trying to stay sane but

 

[Craig bellerson]

I'm from England and lost contact with my family a long time ago. Any friends moved on with their lives. So I've moved around a lot to survive and ended up with no friends or acquaintances at all. It's ruining everything for me

I can't work in the jobs I want because of lack of industrial contacts, I can't go back to study because no academic references. Moving can be hard because no one will be a guarantor. I can't even own a passport anymore because no one will act as a countersignature after it got lost. Which means despite being a lifelong citizen I cannot hold a passport.

What is worse is how bad the damage is to my mental health and sense of being alive. This is really horrible and there is simply no help. I don't want someone to talk to me about joining a book club or volunteering, I am talking about the essential connection you need as a person which everyone needs. Except everyone has walked away and there's no chance of making friends as an adult. Everyone is either at work or too tired afterwards to be bothered.

Being alone almost constantly is leaving me with a very bad level of anxiety. I don't bother with the doctors anymore because they don't take me seriously and there is no point doping myself up. I need to try and build connections but that is impossible. All I can do is try to zone out because this is barely worth living for but as I get older that is becoming harder to do.

I spend all my energy trying to stay sane but this is not a fair fight at all. I don't know what to do or where to go.

Hi I'm new to this..I've recently split from a toxic relationship. I also have no family an friends to support me. I've no job no money and no direction in life..I thought I'd give this site a try for my own sanity

 

[okidoke]

Hi I'm new to this..I've recently split from a toxic relationship. I also have no family an friends to support me. I've no job no money and no direction in life..I thought I'd give this site a try for my own sanity

Welcome to you as well Craig. Question - while in the toxic relationship did you have a job, money or direction?

 

[Craig bellerson]

Welcome to you as well Craig. Question - while in the toxic relationship did you have a job, money or direction?

When we met I had a great job..gave it up to move in with her..then all downhill from there.couldnt keep a job didn't understand the way of life and banter so it isolated me.it just all fell apart to the point of where I at now..I've moved back to where I'm from originally..I live in supported housing and can't sfgord that...I'm just looking for thst Ray of light in an ever darkening tunnel

 

[okidoke]

When we met I had a great job..gave it up to move in with her..then all downhill from there.couldnt keep a job didn't understand the way of life and banter so it isolated me.it just all fell apart to the point of where I at now..I've moved back to where I'm from originally..I live in supported housing and can't sfgord that...I'm just looking for thst Ray of light in an ever darkening tunnel

sounds like you need to get back to the original circumstances that landed you the great job