Graduating from college, but lonely

[lonelyduringbreak]

So, I will be graduating from a pretty prestigious university this May. I guess I chose this college for its academics without taking into consideration the other half, the social scene. Looking back on it, I wouldn't choose this college cuz I feel like I have been socially deprived and have made absolutely no friends.

I'm in the middle of writing a paper, but can't concentrate because sometimes I can't help but think how many opportunities I have missed during college. I'm actually in my fifth year in college, where the majority of my peers here graduate within four years. I took a year off from school because I couldn't handle it here socially, and I came back refreshed hoping to make friends, but didn't.

I also see a psychologist here, not cuz I have a serious psychological issue, but just for the purposes blowing off some steam. She's the only person who I share my feelings and experiences, and it's refreshing as I have zero friends. Sure, I have a few acquaintances here and there, but the relationships aren't deep besides, "How'd you do on that paper?"

To get to the main point, I have about a week and a half break that's between my last final and graduation. Just thinking about that depresses me because on the one hand it's great that I have all this free time where I will have no academics to worry about, but on the other hand what can I do with this free time? I'm in the boonies and at least going to a college in a big city would provide some venues, but that's not the case for me.

I was thinking of visiting my friend who is also in college and we've been friends since high school. However, I'm telling myself that it may not be worth it because I would have to pay for the plane tickets and think about the cost of food and drinks while I'm visiting him there and not so sure...

Or, I could just stay here on campus, but I'd be alone. However, I'm used to being alone and have been for four years so it'd be just another 14 days. Is anyone else in a similar situation, about to have a long break with no plans whatsoever and most likely going to be spending it alone? I think a few days of the break would be nice, but I feel like I can take it only so much since I literally have no one who I can talk to.

For those of you who are loners, and don't mean that in a condescending manner as I'm a loner myself, what's a good way to burn through time or make the most of it for 14 days without classes/exams/papers?

Just to give a little background -- similarly, I wasn't always like this in high school. I had a solid social life with plenty of friends, went out to parties, etc. But, I was unable to do that during my 5 years in college and now it feels like my social life has collapsed.

Any feedback or thoughts would be appreciated.

 

[Spare]

College is over; now real life begins! Try to think of it as a fresh start with a clean slate, and move forward.

If it were me, I'd spend the next two weeks being as lazy as is humanly possible. After all, this might be your last chance for true slothfullness for quite some time. Go to bed late, get up later, eat junk food and watch daytime television. Can't stand daytime television? That's probably for the best. Go for some walks. Get out into the country and commune with nature a little (don't forget your junk food).

Don't dwell on your social situation. College is a stressful, important time, and the rabidly social creatures of the world are the ones who glean the least from it. From the sound of things, your college time was wisely spent. You have the rest of your life to make friends, but believe me when I say that you generally only get the one shot at a good education. So move ever onward, and harbor no regrets!

Good luck!

 

[lonelyduringbreak]

College is over; now real life begins! Try to think of it as a fresh start with a clean slate, and move forward.

If it were me, I'd spend the next two weeks being as lazy as is humanly possible. After all, this might be your last chance for true slothfullness for quite some time. Go to bed late, get up later, eat junk food and watch daytime television. Can't stand daytime television? That's probably for the best. Go for some walks. Get out into the country and commune with nature a little (don't forget your junk food).

Don't dwell on your social situation. College is a stressful, important time, and the rabidly social creatures of the world are the ones who glean the least from it. From the sound of things, your college time was wisely spent. You have the rest of your life to make friends, but believe me when I say that you generally only get the one shot at a good education. So move ever onward, and harbor no regrets!

Good luck!

Thanks, I try to think of it that way too -- that my degree is worthwhile.

However, I don't have a TV in my dormitory. Also, for some reason, even though the days are dwindling until I'm out of here, it's getting more and more difficult getting through the days. I feel like there is too much time on my hands, even though I can definitely use them to work on long term papers that require a lot of time. However, I'm feeling no motivation and that's significantly because I have no friends or someone to talk to here. I know what it's like to have friends -- had some and made some great friends in the summer, and I noticed that I was not only happier, but able to get my work done.

I feel like a tool just going through the daily motions, going to class, and getting my homework done. I know it's something that needs to be done, but it's just starting to piss me off altogether.