Guest Worries

[Masque]

Tonight I'm having an old friend over for the first dinner in my new home not cooked for myself. It's not a fancy place, but it's home. Books laid out on the shelves, a few accents on the sparse furniture, and a memento here and there.

I've known this woman for most of my life. We shared all the major trials of growing up and she often invited me over for dinner. I lived in a chaotic, invasive, and unpleasant household and couldn't reciprocate. One of the nicest things my stepfather ever said to guests was that their religion was fake prior to even saying "Good morning" or "Welcome to our home".

We've never been judgmental of each other, but I'm nervous. I'm on a tight budget and am not a particularly good cook (though I seem to be better than many). Dinner won't be any fancier than my home, though hers have always been wonderful. I worry that I'll mess it up just ten minutes before she arrives and won't have time to restock or start again.

Do you struggle even with friends in situations that really shouldn't be a big deal?

 

[Tiina63]

It sounds as though your friend accepts you the way you are, and that you do the same with her. I can understand that you are anxious and it is natural that you want to impress her with your cooking and with your first home of your own, but hopefully you will be able to relax once she arrives as it sounds as though, going on the way your friendship has always been, that she will appreciate everything. Bon appetit!

 

[9006]

If it makes you feel any better she's probably coming for your company, not your cooking or to see how good your home is. Just act yourself, relax, an just think she's another person just like yourself. I'm sure she'll have similar feelings.

Good luck!

 

[Hearmenow2012]

If it makes you feel any better she's probably coming for your company, not your cooking or to see how good your home is. Just act yourself, relax, an just think she's another person just like yourself. I'm sure she'll have similar feelings.

Good luck!

I agree. You're probably worrying about nothing, but it is only natural. At least you have made the effort of inviting them around. Good luck, I hope that it goes well for you

 

[Sci-Fi]

Hope it all went well.

To answer your question, no. If I'm with a friend I feel much more comfortable than if I was alone.

 

[*Sammy*]

To answer your question, no. If I'm with a friend I feel much more comfortable than if I was alone.

Couldn't agree more.

I hope it all went well hun and i'm sure your friend was more looking forward to seeing you than anything else

 

[Masque]

Thank you, folks. Things went well and I didn't burn dinner, I just made a horrible mess to clean up later. I think next time I may be a little bolder with the recipe to celebrate finally being able to have people over and not worry about what message I'm sending by never inviting them.