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Fustar

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Being lonely is one thing, but I'm not happy. No matter how many friends, family or activities I cram into my days, in the end I am just not happy. I no longer want, everything I need I have. At least that's how I feel, and the future looks bright. I have recently come to a happy point in my life. Everything is going great, I finish college next summer, I'm excited about finding a career. I've starting doing the things that make me happy again. Writing, reading, playing tennis, working on cars. I just can't make sense of it, I am happy, but at the same time I'm not. I'm not sure any of this makes sense. I should be happy, I should be but I'm not.
 
Maybe you are suffering from depression?
Or is there something in your life you are trying not to think about? It sounds as if you are keeping very busy, to the extent that maybe you want to not dwell on something and are trying to escape it by frantic activity. I try to keep busy to avoid thinking about my loneliness. It onl;y works to a limited extent
Or it could simply be that the activities which once made you happy are no longer the right ones for you. You said that you had started doing these activites again, implyng that you didn't do them for a while-maybe you could keep some of your interests and think of new and different ones to replace others, as you could have moved on from some of them? I have dropped various hobbies during my life (and kept hold of others) as I have changed.
 
Maybe happiness is what happens, once you run out of sadness...
Try to find out what stops you from being happy and eliminate it.
If it is an depression, then this maybe will need some professional help from outside... like a psychologist?
 
Like what Tiina63 said it could be a slight form of depression. I went through (and am still going through) the exact same thing where I had everything I could possibly want but just couldn’t raise any interest or desire in life. There is this numb feeling, almost boredom where I felt that even when doing things I used to enjoy, it was more like just going through the motions for the sake of pretence rather than getting any real pleasure from them. It’s hard to put a name on it but there was this nagging feeling that I’m supposed to do something bigger in life, something more than normal but no idea what that was.

As weird as it sounds I found that I crave challenge, something that will take me out of my comfort zone and get me thinking again. This is both a distraction and a focus point, I started running and working out again, I took up a distance learning course and set myself specific goals for the day like performing at least three good deeds to random strangers. I just needed some sort of stimulation and while I’ve still remained disinterested in certain hobbies I liked before (I chalk it up to just moving on) I don’t dwell or feel as anxious (anxiety can be linked to depression) as much as I used to.

Sometimes a big shake up is just what we need to get ourselves out of a rut.
 
I'm happy enough. Things are alot better than this time last year !
 
I've ruled depression out. I'm happy while performing the mentioned activities. It just feels like something is missing I guess. This feeling isn't shaping my life or anything. Its not changing my habits, or my ability to be happy in certain moments. Maybe I am asking for to much. After all no one can be happy all the time.
 
Try writing in a journal. That helps me. Or get into a new hobby. :)
There's lots to do out there, are you creative at all?
For relaxation try meditating unless you frown on that, than I respect that.
Just throwing options out there, but if you are depressed try talking to a doctor.
And get a second opinion. Better safe than sorry.
 
WallflowerGirl83 said:
Try writing in a journal. That helps me. Or get into a new hobby. :)
There's lots to do out there, are you creative at all?
For relaxation try meditating unless you frown on that, than I respect that.
Just throwing options out there, but if you are depressed try talking to a doctor.
And get a second opinion. Better safe than sorry.

I try new things, when I find something interesting. I do meditate from time to time. I recently started learning chi and the meditations that go along with its philosophies. I am not depressed, my sister is a psychology major going for her masters in counseling. Trust me if I was depressed she would have caught it, and kicked my butt into counseling. I think something is missing, I will just have to try and find what it is. Thanks for the suggestions. Everyone!
 

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