Hello from Mandy

[Unsigned]

You want to fight with me for everything I say?

Hi.
It's not a fight, really.
Yes, it's great if the OP turned her life around, but still...she murdered an innocent man.
To be able to rob his house. And for what? Maybe a few thousand dollars worth of stuff?
Even worse....not because she was in danger, or even hungry..but...because some PIECE OF CRAP BAD BOY THUG told her too.
She could have/SHOULD HAVE shot THE POS THUG BOYFRIEND when he tossed her the gun.
Try to put yourself in the place of a person that has had a similar incident of violent crime in their life.
Yes, I know, she said that man's family forgave her. Great for them.
But not everyone will be as forgiving.

 

[BeyondShy]

Hi.
It's not a fight, really.
Yes, it's great if the OP turned her life around, but still...she murdered an innocent man.
To be able to rob his house. And for what? Maybe a few thousand dollars worth of stuff?
Even worse....not because she was in danger, or even hungry..but...because some PIECE OF CRAP BAD BOY THUG told her too.
She could have/SHOULD HAVE shot THE POS THUG BOYFRIEND when he tossed her the gun.
Try to put yourself in the place of a person that has had a similar incident of violent crime in their life.
Yes, I know, she said that man's family forgave her. Great for them.
But not everyone will be as forgiving.

I understand, I really do. This was the first time I read something like this in here and I do have some experience being here.

 

[Forgottendanfan]

Hi.
It's not a fight, really.
Yes, it's great if the OP turned her life around, but still...she murdered an innocent man.
To be able to rob his house. And for what? Maybe a few thousand dollars worth of stuff?
Even worse....not because she was in danger, or even hungry..but...because some PIECE OF CRAP BAD BOY THUG told her too.
She could have/SHOULD HAVE shot THE POS THUG BOYFRIEND when he tossed her the gun.
Try to put yourself in the place of a person that has had a similar incident of violent crime in their life.
Yes, I know, she said that man's family forgave her. Great for them.
But not everyone will be as forgiving.

Common sense prevails.

 

[Butterfly 2]

Hi Mandy and Erica and welcome! I wish you both well and hope to get to know you better.

 

[Punisher]

You were a child, the family forgave you, and you did your time. Good luck with moving forward, and try to enjoy your second chance at life.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Welcome to ALL

 

[StephanieB]

Hello Mandy. I get occasional updates in my emails regarding the forums on this page and your post caught my eye. I'm not on this forum much at all, I just skim through the emails I get once in a great occasion.

I just wanted to let you know that second chances are a blessing and I hope that you take it very seriously and learn from your mistakes and don't fall back into bad behaviors.

I acknowledge that people can sometimes change their ways if they really want to, so I encourage you to ignore any bad comments from people on here and just move forward in your life towards better things for yourself.

My sister is a recovering drug addict and was in and out of trouble because of the drugs for years. If it wasn't for her accidental pregnancy, she would probably still be struggling with drugs.

I know that if you are earnest in changing your ways that you are probably going to make it your goal to spend the rest of your life trying to be better than you were. Some people will never see you as good because of what you have done, and that's something you are going to have to accept.

Although my sister has been clean for 7 years, I still wonder in the back of my mind if she's capable of falling back into her addictions and resume the stealing and lying and the taking advantage of people. I always think twice before trusting her, and that's something you might have to expect as well. The doubt will always be there, but the only person you have to prove yourself to... is yourself. If you know that you're different now, that's all that matters.

Also keep reminding yourself why you don't want to be where you used to be. Keep proving yourself that you're better than your younger self, and others may see that too. I encourage you to start a gratitude journal. It may help with your healing. From an empathetic spirit. I send out a prayer for you to have the right kind of strength.

 

[StephanieB]

One last comment I'd like to make in addition to my previous reply. I've noticed some people on here may be wanting to see you own up to what you chose to do and show that you truly are sorry instead of making excuses or explaining the facts of your case. My sister used to make excuses for herself all the time until I called her out for it. There is no excuse for lying and stealing from your loved ones to buy drugs (like my sister did) and there is no excuse for choosing to kill. Don't try to let your serving time excuse you, because it doesn't really.

Actions speak louder than words, and it's very hard for anyone really to be able to trust someone who has done something as serious and looked down upon as taking a sacred life. Even though some of the things they say seem negative, perhaps they have been hurt or experienced loss in the same way that your victim's family has felt loss. I would look at it that way.

 

[StephanieB]

One last comment I'd like to make in addition to my previous reply. I've noticed some people on here may be wanting to see you own up to what you chose to do and show that you truly are sorry instead of making excuses or explaining the facts of your case. My sister used to make excuses for herself all the time until I called her out for it. There is no excuse for lying and stealing from your loved ones to buy drugs (like my sister did) and there is no excuse for choosing to kill. Don't try to let your serving time excuse you, because it doesn't really.

Actions speak louder than words, and it's very hard for anyone really to be able to trust someone who has done something as serious and looked down upon as taking a sacred life. Even though some of the things they say seem negative, perhaps they have been hurt or experienced loss in the same way that your victim's family has felt loss. I would look at it that way. This is the empathetic side of me trying to put myself in the shoes of both sides of the story.

 

[user 190117]

Hello,I am Mandy and in the progress of cleaning my life up.Got out of prison back last year,did a 25 year sentence for murder and regret it.Hung around the wrong people which I have a record since the age of 15.One night an ex BF wanted to rob a house and I went with him.Did and pressured me to shoot the owner.I was 17 at the time and took the plea deal charged as an adult.So far things are going well with my parents working things.Also have a second chance,got my GED last year and working at a transmission repair shop.So far the owner I am working for is impressed with me.I also have a son I gave birth to when I was 16,we are making up lost time whom is 28 now.

Mandy! Welcome back to freedom! Past is past and bad things happen of course! Time to move on and don’t allow your past to define you, but let your future to guide you, many people will still judge you even though you already paid your dues, haters will hate and critics will critique but allow love and acceptance be a guide for you going forward.

 

[okidoke]

Mandy, much has already been said, and no doubt you will have heard tenfold of people's thoughts in the real world. I was a cop for over 20 years and have seen many many types of perpetrators of crime in that time. Some learn a lesson, some don't. Some make amends, some don't. Some carry guilt, some don't. Some are forgiven by victims and their families, some aren't. You have done your time as required by law and you're making an effort to do something better with your life. I commend you for that. You have the opportunity to make something meaningful of your life and maybe for others. I wish you well. Don't f*** it up.

 

[funnylife33]

Hi.
It's not a fight, really.
Yes, it's great if the OP turned her life around, but still...she murdered an innocent man.
To be able to rob his house. And for what? Maybe a few thousand dollars worth of stuff?
Even worse....not because she was in danger, or even hungry..but...because some PIECE OF CRAP BAD BOY THUG told her too.
She could have/SHOULD HAVE shot THE POS THUG BOYFRIEND when he tossed her the gun.
Try to put yourself in the place of a person that has had a similar incident of violent crime in their life.
Yes, I know, she said that man's family forgave her. Great for them.
But not everyone will be as forgiving.

she can change or she can stay the way she is ...

but i think most of us don't give a **** to be honest ....

murder is murder ....

 

[Forgottendanfan]

she can change or she can stay the way she is ...

but i think most of us don't give a honeysuckle to be a honest ....

murder is murder ....

Quite honestly I agree. Some wrongs can never be put right, and house invasion/murder of an innocent, unsuspecting victim is one of them.

 

[Forgottendanfan]

You were a child, the family forgave you, and you did your time. Good luck with moving forward, and try to enjoy your second chance at life.

A child who had the ability to invade a house and shoot someone.

 

[okidoke]

........i think most of us don't give a honeysuckle to be honest ....murder is murder ....

Quite honestly I agree. Some wrongs can never be put right.......

Yeah, righto, "he who is without sin" and all that............

 

[user 190117]

I agree! If someone paid their debt to society, why keep punishing that person? You can’t never undo what happened or bring that person back! We all make mistakes and all have committed crimes in the eyes of GOD! There are 9 other offenses besides murder and one sin is not heavier than the other. Unless you are perfect without blame, you shouldn’t judge others based on their past because they also deserve mercy.

 

[Forgottendanfan]

I agree! If someone paid their debt to society, why keep punishing that person? You can’t never undo what happened or bring that person back! We all make mistakes and all have committed crimes in the eyes of GOD! There are 9 other offenses besides murder and one sin is not heavier than the other. Unless you are perfect without blame, you shouldn’t judge others based on their past because they also deserve mercy.

I disagree. Despite what the bible might say, I think murder is indeed heavier than most, if not all, other sins.

 

[Unsigned]

I disagree. Despite what the bible might say, I think murder is indeed heavier than most, if not all, other sins.

Not just murder but anything where the criminal has gone above and beyond in brutalizing the victim.
Like Maiming for life (like Mark Wahlberg did to his victim), and vicious rape (like the Richmond gang rape).
I agree, there is really no way to atone for these types of crimes.

I agree! If someone paid their debt to society, why keep punishing that person?

But the person is NOT being punished at all currently. They served their time and now are free.
I understand what your ultimate point is.
Yes, the criminal should try to lead a righteous life and try to do only good for people going forward.
And yes, they will only be judged by God.
But still, we here on earth have a right AND A DUTY to be highly suspicious and vigilant regarding the activities of that person.

 

[user 190117]

I disagree. Despite what the bible might say, I think murder is indeed heavier than most, if not all, other sins.

Explain your point of view to GOD! Not me. I didn’t write the 10 commandments.

 

[Abstamyous]

I'm sorry Mandy. Your post shouldn't be treated as the debate area.