Help me !!

[Lina]

Hi guys-This my story :
I've met a year ago a guy we used to work at the same place , he was like smiling to me looking at me but we have never talked .After 6 months of working outside the city , i'm back -the problem is that i'm too shy and i really like him but he thinks i'm not intetrested and that's burning me from inside. Now i feel like he doesn't care and thisthis is killing me . I want to approach him and i don't know how to do it ?????. Help me please any ideas suggestions cause i have just one month and i'm leaving to work in other place forever

 

[Regumika]

there is no solution except to get out of your comfort zone let him know somehow...

you can write him a note and ask how he feels? sounds silly, but there is nothing wrong with being shy. i hope the best for you =)

 

[Lina]

No being shy is all wrong cause i didn't allow me to let him know how i feel at the good time now i'm just diing alone from inside !! He is somone amazing i really like him sooo much

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* it didn't

 

[Edward W]

Email him and say you're only in town for a while and would love to meet up and have something to eat or drink.

Maybe a start?

 

[Regumika]

No being shy is all wrong cause i didn't allow me to let him know how i feel at the good time now i'm just diing alone from inside !! He is somone amazing i really like him sooo much

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* it didn't

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i see what you mean. it is an obstacle and it hinders you in what you want happen yes, but its still not wrong.

just give him a note, or email like edward said. it will either turn out good, or you will know nothing will come of it.

 

[Lina]

But i don't wanna be rude by emailing him or writing him a note cause what if he doesn't want me anymore or if he has already a girlfriend it would be silly to do it and i'm working with him so ....

 

[Regumika]

its not silly, at all.

lets say you are in a relationship with him. is it silly for another man to ask you out if he just met you recently? its the same in this case, how would you know? you dont go around talking about your personal life at work right? so how would anyone know.

"oh, sorry." and move on to find another man like him.
"oh, thank you." and move on.

i know its not easy. i know...

dont let what you -think- is happening hinder you from what can actually happen.

 

[Lina]

I can't move on until i'm sure he doesn't care about me anymore but how ??

 

[Seeker]

You want to know how he feels? Then forget the cliche of women not approaching guys and be direct with him. Tell him that last time you were in town you saw some sparks flying between you two and ask him if he would like to go out with you, if he doesn't have some significant other. It is clear that he doesn't know that you like him and would be a shame to think about it in a few years and still wonder "what could have been". It is not embarrassing for women to ask men out, in fact he may appreciate you more for it.

 

[stuff4096]

You want to know how he feels? Then forget the cliche of women not approaching guys and be direct with him. Tell him that last time you were in town you saw some sparks flying between you two and ask him if he would like to go out with you, if he doesn't have some significant other. It is clear that he doesn't know that you like him and would be a shame to think about it in a few years and still wonder "what could have been". It is not embarrassing for women to ask men out, in fact he may appreciate you more for it.

I concur with Seeker's post

You definitely don't want that "what if" to haunt you. I can tell you from personal experience it is one of the worst feelings ever. Like you said, you can't move on until you know how he feels and the only way to do that is to take matters into your own hands. Either he shares your feelings and all is good, or he doesn't and you can move forward to the next guy. I can also say I would love it if women would take more initiative in approaching first

Hope things work out in your favor

 

[Lina]

Hey guys i have some news
I've discovered that this guy wanted me just for some couple nights and not for a serious relationship , thanks god i've discovered this before starting anything with him.
He was so cute kind and perfect and for a moment i thought he was the right one !!!

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Thanks for all who tried to help me out

 

[Seosa2]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

 

[Lina]

Oh yeah !

 

[Regumika]

I am glad that nothing bad happened to you where you would regret later.

I am curious though, how did you end up talking to him? Was it a note? an email? a paper plane?

 

[Lina]

He came to me by himself and asked me out

 

[Seosa2]

He came to me by himself and asked me out

He wanted a quick shag. Good on you for getting out.

 

[Lina]

Yes he is a bad guy !

 

[Regumika]

He came to me by himself and asked me out

So.. The issue was avoided this time.. but next time you will still need to let the guy know somehow right? The next guy that catches your eye..

Have you thought about what you would do?

 

[Lina]

No not exactly but you know this does really hurt and i'm afraid to live the same thing again- i really liked him , he was so perfect !!

 

[Regumika]

He may be the perfect fit, but he probably wouldn't treat you right, from what you have said.

I know what it is like to cling on to the small hope (sometimes it works out). I know how hard it is to let go.