Hezekiah's Thread Of Insanity (Update)

[TheSolitaryMan]

I only skim read the top before I stopped, lol. Seemed too much like one of those "do this and you'll instantly win at life 'cos I sez so" sites to me. Forgive me if I'm wrong!

I think any girl or guy can be sexy to be honest, have to say I disagree with you on this one Annik

Okay, so I'm probably one of the less qualified people here to talk on what is sexy or not! Nonetheless I'm going to, because I think about it an awful lot

I'd say being sexy (or at least my idea of sexy!) is the ability to be creatively and psychologically stimulating rather than an inherent physical or personality-based property.

I believe being sexy is simply knowing when to be spontaneous with your passions, when to be predictable, when to be subtle in your rudeness and when to be overt.

At least, that's how I think of it. I haven't had much experience at all, but on the very rare occasions that I have showed girls a taste of my most passionate levels of flirtation they have seemed rather taken aback. Judging by the pleasant giggling, red faces and rather intense responses anyway

To be fair though, much of my flirting has been online, via text. I think there have been 2 occasions I have flirted "properly" in real life, both times briefly. It was very exciting however!

If I get a girlfriend, I'd very much like to experiment with these ideas of mine. One day I might just decide to whisper sweet pleasantries while snuggling her gently, another time I might just verbally be suggestive for fun, another I may try immediately initiating a passionate snog/embrace at a pleasantly surprising moment and see if she enjoys that.

Obviously appearance, clothes etc. matters, but being fun to talk to and remaining classy whilst suggestive is what I find really attractive in a girl who is "sexy". Infinitely more so than society's typical view of sexy, which appears to equal "moar flesh = moar sexaynass."

And now I must stop, because typing all this is exposing a rather fiery side of me that no one ever sees! When I start thinking about all that I remember that I actually really enjoy interacting like that, it's just I never really feel 100% comfortable unleashing myself fully

Fingers crossed that will change soon. Does anyone else have differing ideas, or things they find more attractive? I'd be very interested to hear

 

[Arsenic Queen]

I did not read the article, and after reading people's reaction to it I don't think I will. I tend to think being sexy is all in the head. Looking good is not enough. I got told and proved in actions I look good, yet I did not feel sexy in ages.

I don't believe in fake Alpha-Male/Female bs. Trying to be anything but yourself is a trap. It can't work for the long term, especially if it makes you deny your character or emotions. Your own self will eventually explode at your face with a lot of damage if you try that.

I think being sexy is a question of not paying attention to the ones who don't like you, not caring too much about the negative reactions or responses you trigger just in being you, and knowing what you want while not letting others stop you with their words. It's about being strong and confident.

It's a way I used to feel about myself a while back and something I aspire to get back in touch with someday.

 

[roguewave]

I don't believe in fake Alpha-Male/Female bs. Trying to be anything but yourself is a trap.

Being an alpha female sounds extremely stressful. Guess I will never know for sure though, lol!

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I wear mostly what my fiance likes on.
My hair is wavy at the moment.
Im fully shaven.

Im not over weight and my body
Is firm.

Its also the music i listen to.
We enjoy the sametype of music.

Its s part of who i am...

She basically demans of me to be a man.
Do whatever it takes to ptovidr for her
And care for. Yet with mush love,
Patients and understanding for her.
Shes a very strong wil women.
Im her man...i must be stronger.

Wheather i have confidance or not,
I best arrise above my weakness and
just do whatever that is require for
Us to have a loving home and loving
Relationship with her and our children.

Shes a very very sexy and sexual woman.
This i assure you.

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No excuses, no **** ups, no ****** around.
When it comes to our livelyhood and our children.

Yet, im like her high school sweet heart
And lover. Sometimes im like the little
Boy in the school yard she can just play,
Laugh, joke aroumd and giggle with.

Shes an amazing dancer outside and inside
The bed room. Whatevrt is appropriate
At the moment and place.

---

She also demands of me to play my
Guitar and music. Its as much a part
Of her as it js a part of me.

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If my fiance can dance and dress for appropriate
Occasion. Im pretty sure she can dress and behave
Accordingly to what is appropriate at that place and
Time. She kind of like a chameleon.

Mature people term it as BEING APPROPRIATE.

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ROLLING AROUND IN THE HAY CAN BE VRRY SEXH
FOR HER AND I WHEN ITS APPROPRIATE.

 

[Nolife Princess]

...

HAHA!!

 

[IgnoredOne]

Apparently the article was salacious enough that my work has blocked it.

 

[SkuzzieMuff]

This article is how to be sexy from an "alpha" **** hooker bitch. That's how to be the woman that stupid, meat headed pricks want to date, not real men that actually give a **** about a woman. Frankly, it's for women that don't want to give a **** about the man their dating, and only care about looks and money as well. Women like this are the ones that end up getting beaten for being stupid c***s.

HOW TO BE SEXY:
Find someone that likes you for who you are, and LET THEM KNOW that you like them too, passively, but clearly.

 

[Arsenic Queen]

HOW TO BE SEXY:
Find someone that likes you for who you are, and LET THEM KNOW that you like them too

Common sense.

 

[sylvestris lybica]

"If you look at yourself in the mirror and say 'I look good', CHANGE your clothes until you can say 'I look hot'. Stop dressing for other women!"

Ever heard of dressing for yourself?

IMO, sexy women exude confidence and sensuality, not some sort of cookie cutter textbook "hotness". So I don't really get #1. But I think 3-5 could be good tips not only for being sexy but for building self-love in general.

As for men, same thing by my standards. I know there may be some mainstream view of what does or doesn't constitute sexy, but it's mostly in the eye of the beholder. One person's sexy might be another person's sleazy.

 

[LoneKiller]

Hi Everyone.

Quite often, we who are currently suffering, give out advice to help others find them relief. If we took the advice that we give others it just might heal ourselves.

Something confuses me so I thought that I'd create this thread to see if it's just me or not. It's obvious that so many of us are lonely on a scale that is more severe than the average person who has bouts of loneliness.

From what I have read and noticed in all the different posts is, that the advice we give others, is the same advice that we should be taking to heal ourselves.

A lot of us know this, but yet so many, including myself don't seem to realize this. Are we hindering our recovery by not taking the same advice that we give out?

Sincerely,
Jason

 

[blackdot]

The only advise I give people is to give up trying to figure out how the dating process works.
But if i take that same advise then I don't have a point in staying alive so I don't take my own advise yet.

 

[SophiaGrace]

I haven't given advice to anyone here in a long time (a few weeks, since I remember giving advice to someone in a PM). After 1 year of trying to fix myself and failing. My advice is probably worth close to nothing. I think we focus TOO MUCH on advice at times, instead of supporting the person who is suffering/ has problems and giving them a safe place in which to sort themselves out and speak.

 

[Sci-Fi]

To answer your question, of course we should.

 

[LoneKiller]

Do you think that we are?

 

[Sci-Fi]

Oh hell no. It's easier to give advice than it is to do it.

 

[SophiaGrace]

Oh hell no. It's easier to give advice than it is to do it.

Which is why people shouldn't get mad if their advice isn't followed

 

[Sci-Fi]

I try not to, you take it, you take it; you don't, you don't. What makes me mad is when they come back crying saying they should have and want sympathy from you. I had a friend who always did this, would ask for my advice, then not take it, **** would hit the fan, and then she'd call me crying expecting me to pity her.

 

[Pezza]

Advice is useful and is always worth considering. I agree that at times we should look at the advice we give to others and consider it for ourselves.

As Sci-Fi pointed out though, its a lot harder to take advice than it is to give it.

In general though 'A Lonely Life' is more helpful to people by being a place where people with various problems can find support and friendship as well as find solace that they are not alone in there struggles with life.

Although that's not to say that the advice here isn't good.

That's my view at least.

 

[Sci-Fi]

Yeah, it's funny a lot of us here know exactly what to do to "make us better" but are just too dang scared/afraid/whatever to do it.

 

[Mouse]

People ask my opinion on something, be it a problem of theirs or what to do in a given situation. Could be anything, really, because I am known to be open and not judgemental. I say it how it is, not shy on speaking my mind and I never have been. Mostly I'd do the same if I was in the same predicament a friend was asking advice about and that is fine with me taking my own advice. I am usually polite and give what I consider a lot of thought before writing a reply or giving a verbal answer.

Only what gets to me is when after I have given the best advice, they don't listen, do the exact opposite and come back to me raging about their crapshit life and how hard done by they are as a result of the reception they were given. And that is when I go tell them to bugger off because I'm effed off for being the butt end of their anger and everybody else's. And this is why I decided on a belated New Year's resolution: I'll shuddup and let others go so do because I am not interested anymore.