Don't take anything I say as personal, I'm just seeing it from all angles and speaking on it. And for the record, I don't know anyone replying here personally, I'm simply a long-term quiet observer speaking his mind bluntly while we're on the topic of 'creepers' and how many people are active here.
While I don't necessarily agree with the OP, and how he dealt with the replies; There was far too much bitterness, misunderstanding, and assumptions thrown around in this thread (again), and I can kinda see why OP felt like he was getting ganged up on and mistaking Callie for an admin. She certainly carries herself like a pseudo-admin. She's in every controversial thread, and correcting with strong confidence. Like an admin or moderator.
Maybe this should be a lesson learned, that this is yet again ANOTHER thread with the same extremely old narrative with an overly inflated sense of self-righteous bitterness with careful structure. Where's that same careful structure when it comes to making sure people don't take things the wrong way?
In my personal 'opinion', The real reason we only have as many active members as we do? Because more often than not, already socially anxious and anti-confrontational people have to constantly feel like they have to walk on egg shells here.
Lighten up some, quit nitpicking, put away the hidden torches that are itching to be let out, and maybe just MAYBE we'll have more members staying. And not the same 3 or 4 people replying in every other controversial thread (whom I always see huddle in the chatroom or discord over these threads, making it feel like it's high school all over again). Yes, there's my entitled "assumption" as I just left 'a chatroom' with passive aggressive jokes about this very thread. It's something new to talk about, right?
It's clear to see with his last reply, that OP is misunderstood and feels like **** for taking what you guys said wrongly and yet he's STILL the "joke" of the day now.
Maybe some self-reflection as to why ALL chat is more often dead than not, is in order too. Whilst, I agree I shouldn't bring the chat into the forum... I hypocritically did so to make a point as it seems doing vice-versa is apparently okay. Or should I be more passive aggressive and speak with mindful precision to hide my double standardized rules too?
We just lost another member, with what feels like a 'don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out' attitude, which is completely asinine to what this forum is supposed to be about unless I'm apparently oblivious to it. No, we can't control who does or does not want to stay here, but that's no excuse to be counter-productive about it based on ones personal views or of how someone should be told-off or think. There's other approaches besides the 'tough love' approach which is ineffective against the broken or lost whom may only visit here to be understood, and accepted. NOT changed into what someone else thinks they should be. It's entirely bigoted and selfish. We don't need high horses with badges of honour here, we need more empathy and compassion.
Things need to feel more welcoming and taken with a grain of salt otherwise enjoy talking to the same group of people, always. That goes for everyone here, including the OP and myself.
