Is it common to be in a relationship, and yet still feel alone? I love my BF and he has some really great qualities, but he can also be a total jerk. Sometimes I feel that all men are selfish, arrogant jerks.
My BF is really into stock car racing. He calls it his hobby, but it is more like his way of life. Everyone that races with him is totally obsessed with it. This "hobby" takes up all of his weekends from mid May - October. And when you live in a cold climate, you want to make the most of the few nice weekends that you have, while you can.
For the past 2 summers I have not attended a single one of his races because I find them boring, dirty (dirt track), and I don't seem to fit in with that crowd. Everyone there is so obsessed and that is all they talk about. During the off season things are a lot better. I would just love to be able to go camping, to the beach, walking, or on a road trip. But he can't do anything during the summer except race. And his parents are obsessed with it as well. They go there every weekend to watch their 36 year old son race circles around the track. It has been said that going to the races is like going to church for them. My BF said that his parents would die if he quit.
However, he says he is going to race less this year. Cut down, but I don't know if I can believe him because If I ever bring it up he gets mad. He says with out racing he would go crazy and that it is his way of getting away. Well, getting away from what? Does that mean me?
Has anyone seen the movie Fever Pitch? I feel like Drew Barrymore in that movie. Dating the obsessed Red Sox fan.I feel so lonely sometimes, like I come second to his car. Maybe we just don't have enough in common to make it work... maybe he should be with someone who loves his life passion as much as he does... someone who grew up with it...
I've gotten to the point where the thought of sitting threw one of those races (you are at the track from 4pm - 11pm most races) makes me physically ill!
He says that he is fine with it if I don't want to go, and that I should find my own hobby... but then I feel like we don't see each other.
Do you think if I found my own hobby with out him I would feel less lonely? Because I think it might make me feel more alone. Plus, I'm kind of a shy book worm... I don't know what other kind of hobby I would find... other than maybe joining a book club.
Am I just in feeling lonely??[/size]
My BF is really into stock car racing. He calls it his hobby, but it is more like his way of life. Everyone that races with him is totally obsessed with it. This "hobby" takes up all of his weekends from mid May - October. And when you live in a cold climate, you want to make the most of the few nice weekends that you have, while you can.
For the past 2 summers I have not attended a single one of his races because I find them boring, dirty (dirt track), and I don't seem to fit in with that crowd. Everyone there is so obsessed and that is all they talk about. During the off season things are a lot better. I would just love to be able to go camping, to the beach, walking, or on a road trip. But he can't do anything during the summer except race. And his parents are obsessed with it as well. They go there every weekend to watch their 36 year old son race circles around the track. It has been said that going to the races is like going to church for them. My BF said that his parents would die if he quit.
However, he says he is going to race less this year. Cut down, but I don't know if I can believe him because If I ever bring it up he gets mad. He says with out racing he would go crazy and that it is his way of getting away. Well, getting away from what? Does that mean me?
Has anyone seen the movie Fever Pitch? I feel like Drew Barrymore in that movie. Dating the obsessed Red Sox fan.I feel so lonely sometimes, like I come second to his car. Maybe we just don't have enough in common to make it work... maybe he should be with someone who loves his life passion as much as he does... someone who grew up with it...
I've gotten to the point where the thought of sitting threw one of those races (you are at the track from 4pm - 11pm most races) makes me physically ill!
He says that he is fine with it if I don't want to go, and that I should find my own hobby... but then I feel like we don't see each other.
Do you think if I found my own hobby with out him I would feel less lonely? Because I think it might make me feel more alone. Plus, I'm kind of a shy book worm... I don't know what other kind of hobby I would find... other than maybe joining a book club.
Am I just in feeling lonely??[/size]
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