How can I forget her?

[Johnny Marco]

First of all let me tell you two things:
1.) I am so glad I found this forum.
2.) English is not my 1st language, so sorry for the sometimes bad grammar.

What is my story? Well, I am a 20-something year old guy from an European country. There is this girl I met about a year ago at the university. During the last year we met a few times outside the school, nothing happened although I always felt we both had great time during theese meets, we had a lot of common interests so we always talked a lot to each other. I never fell in love with her during the 2009/2010 school year but I felt like she was my soulmate

This summer I went working for two month abroad were sometimes I really felt very lonely (but that is an other story). On one lonely evening I started talking to her on the internet and we finished only six hours later. She told me then that she decided to quit the university and that she was going to work abroad for at least a year.

When she told me that, I decided that I will visit her, although I did not revealed that to her then. In the beginning of September I came back home. (She was already working abroad by then.) I wrote her that I am going to visit the same country where she is working but I did not tell her that the main reason I am going there is to meet her. So last week I travelled 1000 kilometers for this girl and met her 4 times when I was there. We talked a lot and had a really good time all four times. Last day when we said goodby to each other I hugged her and said that I will miss her.

Here I am, two days after I said goodbye to her, and I realized only now that I am in love with her and that I miss her incredibly. I am thinking about her non-stop for two days and feel like the loneliest person on Earth. Even if I found out that she likes me it would not make any difference since we live 1000 kilometers away from each other, so I decided that the best thing would be to forget her. But how can I do that? I was thinking that maybe I should write her an e-mail about my feelings, I think maybe I would feel better after that. What should i do? any ideas?

 

[alonewanderer]

Well you can see if the feeling is mutual and realize that love triumphs over everything even distance, if you've made the trip once you can do it again.

Or

Find someone else you enjoy spending time with, this is the quickest way to do it but leaves you vulnerable to rebound relationships, quick to start, quick to end with plenty of broken hearts and expectations that never become fufilled. This is the easiest way to get over a broken heart but sometimes repeats in cycles, as long as you don't mind talking to new people you'll never really feel your spirits get low but you may lose a part of yourself.

Also

You can wait it out, it'll probably take the exact amount of time that you've known her to get over her and you'll never truly forget about her if you try to do this alone. This path is the one that hurts the most and takes the longest.

 

[Tex Is Lost]

First of all, welcome to the Forum.

Secondly, your English is fine. Its my native tongue, and I don't get it right sometimes.

Now for the heart of the matter.
I say Go For Broke! Which means give it your all. If you feel that strongly, then let nothing stand in your way. There is no guarantee of success, but matters of the heart do not subscribe to common sense or any formula.
I live 1545 miles from someone whom I am...interested...(which is 2545 km I think) and I am making plans to journey where she is. There is NO guarantee that this will develop into a lasting relationship, but I will take every opportunity presented to see what happens.
The point is this: if you love this women then pursue her. If, at the end, she does not reciprocate, then that is sad, but you will go on and find love. But if it does...then wonderful, wonderful, and more wonderful.

 

[Tex Is Lost]

By the way. Where are you from?

 

[Johnny Marco]

I am from a Central European country. I really do not want to reveal more details about my location, I hope you understand. Anyway I will write her sometime next week, but first I will ask for advice from a closer friend.