How can I meet someone?

[Tiina63]

Hello everyone. I am a new member, in my early fifties and am still single. I have had 2 relationships and have done internet dating for some years, but up till now I haven't had much luck with it. Sometimes the loneliness can be overwhelming. I have no family-parents passed away, no brothers or sisters, no children, though on the plus side I do find it easy to make friends. When it comes to dating, however, things are different. I find that usually I am sitting there on dates scrabbling around mentally for something to talk about. Generally I will mention general topics and will also refer to things the man has mentioned in messages eg if he wrote he likes sport, I will ask about the sorts of sport he likes, and if he watches or takes part etc. However, often the man will answer in a few words and then not ask me anything back about my own interests or life. I am an introvert, and after having to carry the conversation for an hour, I feel as if I have done a twelve hour shift in a coalmine as I am so exhausted and all I want to do is go home to sleep. Sometimes I think that maybe there is something awful wrong with me, because this has happened on a number of occasions. Am I really boring and ugly or something? Does anyone here do internet dating and have they had the same sort of thing happen to them?
I have recently started pushing myself way out of my comfort zone socially and joining different discussion groups and may join a new church in the hope of finding someone the 'usual' way. It's hard, though, as I have so little confidence when it comes to relationships, as I don't know if anyone could ever love me.

 

[Pierino]

If someone asks you for (*link removed*) it is your responsibility to accept it, barring any issues .

 

[Twilight Sky]

The thing is you have not found that person you click well with yet. Those you don't click with(vice versa) you will be hard pressed to talk with them. Introversion isn't really going against you here(and I'm one as well). Lack of communication..and when you have to try, is a sure sign it will not work out no matter what.. Remember it takes two to make it work. If you're the only one running a conversation, the issue most likely does not lie with you.

Keep looking/waiting, he will come..

 

[Miss Demeanour]

I know how you feel Tiina. Not necessarily on dating sites, but on some forums or Facebook, people will initiate the conversation by saying "Hi" but they never actually ask you about anything or show any real interest, all is they want to do is talk about themselves all the time and what they're doing. It's not about you being boring or ugly, it's about them having a me me me attitude and unfortunately there's a hell of a lot of them out there.