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how do you spend, your b-day, new year, x-mas, v-day, and other special occasions?

i hate it when my b-day or v-day comes. because most of the times...nobody remembers me. it reminds me of how miserable i am.

unlike regular days, sometimes i forget that im lonely.:(
 
Well, my birthday is spent along with my tiny family (parents, prother and sister-in-law), and since everyone knows I like to read, I spend the day reading the books given to me. V-day is spent in school, and since it's tradition in Portugal, single boys (girls get away:rolleyes:) hand out valentine cards from a person to another. Christmas and new year are again spent with my family, but it's not that cool... I'm the second youngest in the family, and there is really nothing to say to each other... We flinch a lot:shy::(
 
My last birthday was spent in solitude and it was a miserable and mind-numbing experience. The worst part of it was that I knew that, for the most part, it was self-inflicted. Speaking for myself, I have an array of issues that make interaction with other people a harrowing chore and it always will be something that I find immensely difficult.
Having said that, my biggest mistake was letting the rot set in and giving up. Because on my birthday not only did I not have any friends with which to share the occasion, I also didn't even have the satisfaction of knowing that I had tried and failed to find any.
I am still something of a lost soul but I know that if I don't find a way of compensating for my social weaknesses, every day will be a dull replica of the one before it Then in the distant future I will wake up, old and withered, looking back in horror at all of the wasted years of loneliness and all of the potential happiness that has been squandered irretrievably.
 
I think that birthdays are very dissapointing in general. I spend most holidays and birthdays with my extended family (mom and siblings). I don't have many friends outside the family.
 
i remember my birthday last year...how could i forget...noone talk to me and i was left wondering where my best friend was only to find out she ditch me on my birthday to go shopping and ignored me for a few days...what a birthday present!!
 
kazman32 said:
pard said:
there are no special occasions

I like that, that is how I feel.

yeah, i guess your right.
its just another day in the calendar...
i used to have happy b-days, when i was a kid.

when my life was still fun... until i destroyed it.:(
 
lone_cowboy said:
kazman32 said:
pard said:
there are no special occasions

I like that, that is how I feel.

yeah, i guess your right.
its just another day in the calendar...
i used to have happy b-days, when i was a kid.

when my life was still fun... until i destroyed it.:(
Last bday I thought nobody will remember me...but I realized I really had some true and concerning friends and even though miles away, they remember me. I felt very good. The only thing I missed was a candlelight dinner with a sweetheart :(
 
I hate holidays, bithdays ect. without family or friends there the worst. I don't even like hearing people talk about what there going to do or how there holiday/birthday was. The worst is when somone asks me what my plans are. They get a blank stare, an eyebrow rise, and a little laugh. If they only knew.
 
i spent alot of those days alone and depressed. but now, if i'm by myself, i try to be serene and sensitive, just to witness a single moment of beauty. if i can have that on a day, i'm happy. i try to get that moment everyday and almost everyday i have it. everything else; socializing, entertainment, success, pleasure, is icing on the cake. i don't mind that in a million years, the universe won't mind if i was happy or sad.
 
X-mas is the only special holiday that i spend with my family.
new year i spend at home, just like any other "normal" day. new year i spend alone because i don't drink and here every one is drunk, i'm not much into parties.
On my birthdays i usually go see a movie and have a dinner in a restaurant alone, it's not that bad really, although much better with some on else...
And for v-day to happen, i need to get to know some girls first :)
 
Thats right. There are NO special occasions.

You know... I was once in the same situation. Birthday... Christmas... V-day... and whatever the **** day... lol

I got miserable alot and self-harmed.

Until I found out that any day is just like any day. No ******* difference. Fine. Prove me wrong. Tell me. Does the air change during "Valentine's Day"? Is there more O2 or less of it in the air? Nothing. Its just like today or tomorrow or any other day. Remember. It was PEOPLE who invented such days.

Just treat those days like every other day.

Do it on purpose. Do NOT celebrate such occassions.

That is what a security guard I know once told me. Cuz he works even during holidays... when everybody is supposed to be enjoying the magicalness of everything.

Do you think if he started crying during certain days just because he's not part of the whole magicalness of it?

lol he'd probably lose his job! And not only that. He will probably end up in a mental institution, head bowed, daily injected with chemicals...



Its just another day. Ever just the same.
 
Eyael said:
Well, my birthday is spent along with my tiny family (parents, prother and sister-in-law), and since everyone knows I like to read, I spend the day reading the books given to me. V-day is spent in school, and since it's tradition in Portugal, single boys (girls get away:rolleyes:) hand out valentine cards from a person to another. Christmas and new year are again spent with my family, but it's not that cool... I'm the second youngest in the family, and there is really nothing to say to each other... We flinch a lot:shy::(


I usually spend my birthday alone, There is nothing wrong with that. I enjoy want ever I want to do. The day belongs to me. I am a king for a day.
 
I was born on New Year's Day... Last time my birthday meant anything was when I was about 10 years old... Since then, just another day... Something with any other holidays... Few times, I spent thanksgiving with my family but didn't really mean anything extra for me... They were all just another day I get to have dinner with few members of my family...
 

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