I am an atrocity when I'm naked

[Pandapanda]

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I have back acne scars from when I was a teenager and to throw in some TMI, I'm also not fond of my genitals. I'm dark skinned so their purple and pink, not the fleshy color you usually see in porn.

Oh wth.
Different races have different genital colours!!!
You can't compare a white chick's junk to an indian chick's junk to a black chick's junk etc!!
Nothing to be ashamed of!!!
If anyone rejects you for it - they are an idiot and obviously too brainwashed for you.
Haha I'm purple and pink too! Buddies <3!!
But seriously, there are waaaay too many mainstream-obsessed idiotic guys that think if you're not a white blonde (artificial usually) with DDs and bleached ass that you're ugly.
Well I say, screw those losers and leave them alone to their lonely forever porn-fapping in their mom's basements!

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You're right Stars, I actually laughed when reading your reply. I guess that's also my inexperience showing. However, when you see tan fairer skinned people most often being held as the ideal of beauty. It can make you feel unworthy. However, I'm starting to build confidence and accept that this is the only body I'll ever have. I like sports so I'm not out of shape or overweight, but my skin isn't perfect as I've already mentioned in my previous post.

General question, are men looking for near perfection when they want to date a woman?

 

[Dark_Poet]

I think everyone has their own vision of what they want.

However, a person's mind is really what makes someone attractive at the end of the day.
Sure we want someone that's pretty to us. However, nothing is more attractive then someone you can converse and get along with day after day. Looks are subjective anyways. Some people like their partners on the large side, some like 'em small. It just goes to show that everyone is beautiful in some way. You just have to find the person who realizes how beautiful you are!

I find the more attractive the person's personality, the more attractive the person becomes.
So, to answer your question, I don't feel men look for perfection as in flawless skin, perfect teeth..... etc.
I just think that if we're truly searching for the one, we're looking for the person that is "perfect" for us.

Hope that helps!

 

[VanillaCreme]

Okay well the weight issue is fixable. Yes?

Btw being pale is not a bad thing. Do not sunbathe. It gives you cancer and wrinkles later in life.

Most every issue is fixable in some way or another. That doesn't mean someone should run out and change themselves.

 

[Among the Sleep]

General question, are men looking for near perfection when they want to date a woman?

No, nothing even close to that...at least for most people. Of course I can't speak for everybody. But for me personally, my standards for physical attractiveness with women is rather low when it comes to relationships. I don't want a relationship just so I can fresia the girl, I want to have a real connection and an open, honest relationship with someone, have someone to fall back on, who knows how messed up I am and loves me anyway. If that girl is ugly...so be it. Me and you are just like every other person on Earth in that we just don't like ourselves enough. It's entirely too common.

It makes me wonder about my own neurosis as it pertains to my looks. Because the response I'm giving right now is probably the same response most people would give. Sometimes I just look at myself in the mirror and it's like EUCH! I'm too hard on myself, that's obvious. With I could fight my way through it.

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Does this hold anybody else back from trying to find a relationship. I don't think that most people look at me and think that I'm really a bad looking guy. But my insecurities eat me alive on a daily basis. I'm 22 and my hair is starting to go white already, and receding. I have more stretch marks than any human on Earth, I'm fairly convinced. I'm fuckin' pale as honeysuckle, 20 pounds or so overweight, I kinda look 17 and (TOO MUCH INFO ALERT) I'm uncircumsized and pretty small down there. When I look in the mirror all I can think of "WHAT girl could look at this pasty blob of honeysuckle, and actually be sexually attracted to it? WHAT girl on Earth would call ME her boyfriend?" and it makes me wish I was dead.

1. Pale skin is in. Girls love the vampiric look it seems.

2. I love the extra padding. All the guys I've been interested in were overweight.

3. Uncircumsized is sexy and you have more sensitivity. It's exciting to see a turtle pop out of its shell! (Well, for me I guess...lololol)

Why in fact, I'm already aroused!

Good work, sir.

I've heard a couple girls say that about uncut guys before, but the overwhelming majority of them seem to think it's gross. If the first time I messed, I pulled my dick out and the girl ran away, I'd probably be so embarrassed I'd hurl myself in front of a moving car.

 

[Pandapanda]

That's comforting to hear Among the Sheep and Dark Poet. Where are guys like you two freaking hiding?

 

[Stars]

1. Pale skin is in. Girls love the vampiric look it seems.

:/ If you say so, everyone I meet, male or female, tells me to get some sun

Perhaps tan skin is their preference of those people that told you.
I mean, it's hardly like every pale or fair-skinned guy is all unwanted and alone.

@Pandapanda...in the Eastern world, I'd say they prefer pale skin. In the Western world, I'd say they prefer tan skin. It's just what that particular..."culture" values at the time and preferences change all the time.
In fact, I use self-tanner...I'd prefer to be more tan...not because I don't like fair skin, but it definitely hides all the scarring I have haha.
Different beauty ideals for different places; but again, it all changes.

@Among the Sleep...oii...honestly, if any girl you meet is so put off by that - don't even bother with her!!! I've met a few guys (ughhh, this ignorance of how the natural human body is is SO common with today's generation) who have said if that if they see a single leg hair on their gfs - they would dump her. Seriously. These kind of people that are scared of this and that of what's natural - really, really don't bother. In fact, just typing about this is making me all angry hahaha...god, people piss me off so much sometimes. >_>

 

[Dark_Poet]

That's comforting to hear Among the Sheep and Dark Poet. Where are guys like you two freaking hiding?

I'm hiding anywhere and everywhere I can!
People are scary

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

I must say, I find it incredible two people can be happy in each other's presence naked. I just can't imagine ever letting someone see me without clothes on.

I'm going swimming soon quite possibly and there may be girls there - frankly I don't think I'll go because I don't want anyone seeing me shirtless

And I say that being reasonably comfortable with my own body too, at least compared to how I used to be! Anyway, I think that most any body "issue" someone may feel they have can be fixed through food discipline and exercise. Stretch marks are annoying though, my body has a lot of them from muscle gain, weight loss and sleeping weirdly, which makes me feel very unattractive sometimes.

 

[Fragile]

I think that the right kind of girl would find me very attractive naked actually. However I'm not that "poster boy" bullshit kind of type.

 

[DiscoSpider]

Ha ha, wow... this thread is something I think about all the time, about myself I mean.

I hate what I look like without clothing. I'm not overweight at all, I'm actually quite tall, big and fit... however, I used to be very overweight nearly four years ago. My body is covered in stretch marks, all over me (stomach, hips, chest, back, shoulders, arms, legs etc.) because of all the weight I gained when I was unhealthy... then when I lost all my weight, I gained even more stretch marks... then when I put on muscle mass due to gym, I gained even MORE stretch marks. Now it looks like I've been mauled by an army of tiny bears.

I also have horrific tan lines since when I'm outdoors, I usually wear a t-shirt or singlet as a top at the very least... so at the moment, my upper arms and shoulders are white, then my torso is absolutely pale white due to a singlet tan... so it's like, double tan lines.

It's okay though... I'm pretty sure that there aren't many people out there who are completely one hundred percent comfortable and confident with their bodies when their clothes are off.

 

[Among the Sleep]

That's comforting to hear Among the Sheep and Dark Poet. Where are guys like you two freaking hiding?

We're everywhere. We're just quieter and not as good looking

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I must say, I find it incredible two people can be happy in each other's presence naked. I just can't imagine ever letting someone see me without clothes on.

I'm going swimming soon quite possibly and there may be girls there - frankly I don't think I'll go because I don't want anyone seeing me shirtless

And I say that being reasonably comfortable with my own body too, at least compared to how I used to be! Anyway, I think that most any body "issue" someone may feel they have can be fixed through food discipline and exercise. Stretch marks are annoying though, my body has a lot of them from muscle gain, weight loss and sleeping weirdly, which makes me feel very unattractive sometimes.

Same, I've got really bad ones in like my upper chest/arm pit area from lifting weights, along with gaining some weight in high school. I'm like 20 pounds lighter than I was in high school, so that's good. But the stretch marks don't go away. I mean, sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and I literally just get angry. I swear three times a week I start my day by looking at myself in the mirror and just thinking "You are GARBAGE!". Not a healthy way to live, though it's probably more common than maybe I'd think. It's not like people say this kind of honeysuckle out loud too often. Ohhhh what I wouldn't give to be functional...

 

[Ak5]

I have stretch marks on my arm, stomach, and legs. I'm still pretty self-conscious on my body, despite losing a lot of weight; still working on gaining muscle mass, so I can relate.

Although, I think the best thing we can do is basically "not care" about it. Continue working out, continue exercising. One day, it'll go away.