I know how you feel thewillowtree. I know EXACTLY. It's funny because I feel that more weight I lose, the more visible I become to people.
The only advise I can give you is my own experience. Ok, so you're overweight. You can do something about that (personally, low carb diet and yoga were the only things that worked for me after 15 years of trying everything else!).
Stop comparing yourself to other women. That is the worst thing you can do when you don't feel great in your own skin. Beauty is very subjective.
I used to go on mad workouts and super strict diets that would last two-three weeks tops, then I'd be totally burned out and not do anything for weeks after. It doesn't work doing it that way at all. I would just put more weight on that what I would lose in those few weeks.
Small changes add up to big results. It takes time, there is no quick fix and you don't need to be strict. Be mindful of what you're eating, get active (you don't need to go nuts and join the gym, just walking is great)
Most of all, you must believe in yourself. If you don't, nobody else will. Stick with it and your confidence will grow and that is the most attractive quality of all.
slm said:
NO GIRLS HOT WOMAN PREFER OVERWEIGHT GUYS TO SKINNY.... SORRY
I don't think that's particularly true. Personally, I am attracted to that actual man rather than the package they come in.