I haven't been here for a while. That doesn't mean that my life has gotten better. The past months have been full of depression, have still struggled with alcoholism, rejection, failure, etc.
The title of my post has to do with the rejection feelings I have these days. Facebook has positive and negative effects on me. I live far away from my country so fb helps me keep in touch with family and friends, see their pics and it's a practical way to be informed about their lives, event and social invitations, etc.
Yet, I have considered closing my account at least for a while. I'm a 30 year old single woman. I'm Latin American so at my age, I'm already a spinster. The fact that I'm single at my age is not the biggest issue because I don't care what people think about my situation. What hurts me is the loneliness and feelings of inadequacy my situation provokes me.
Friends my age are mostly married or in relationships. Honestly, I feel jealous. For me it has always been so hard to keep a relationship. I recon that being single has let me have some liberties that have been beneficial but at the same time, I ask myself what is wrong with me. I have been in relationships and that is probably more than some people have achieved. Yet, I've never been in a satisfying relationship. Men that like me, well I can't like them back. Trust me, I do give them a chance and try all my best to be open and give it a go. It has never worked. I hate it but I can't help not being able to control it. I think that if I could control it I wouldn't be alone. The worst thing is that I end up hurting this men. That is why lately I won't give it a go with anyone that I feel insecure with about my feelings.
Men I like, well they don't like me back. Some years ago, I was in a relationship in which I really liked the guy and did anything I could to keep him happy. I knew deep inside that he didn't feel the same way but I made the mistake of ignoring those suspicions. I would post pics of us on fb, and he, well he posted 0 pics of us. I thought back then that maybe he wasn't a fb kind of guy. He ended up dumping me and months later started a relationship, from where he proudly post pics of him and this new gf. Was he ashamed of showing me around? I had been in a relationship years before this one in which the guy was ashamed of me and tried to hide the relationship.
So, recently I had a similar rejection. Somebody that I liked for months rejected me, played with my feelings and offered me a casual non committing relationship which I obviously rejected. I'm a good woman, how could he think I would be only good enough for sex? He knew how I felt for him and I went through a lot of **** for him, how could he offer me that? About a year ago, he was in a relationship and he posted so many pics of her, saying how beautiful he thought he was (he wrote a comment about it), looking so proud and happy to be with her. With me, he rejected me and basically left it clear that I'm not good enough and that all I can aspire to is to have sex with him. This broke my already damaged self esteem.
How could some men be loving and caring with some women and horrible with others? Sometimes I feel that I'll never fall in love and be loved back and that men I feel attracted to will always find me not good enough. I am not shallow, yet I can't control who I feel attracted to.
Then again, feelings of inadequacy invade my mind. Yesterday a guy in a restaurant said to his friends that I was a transvestite. I'm sick of people making this transvestite / transsexual comments about me. Just makes me realise that men might find me unattractive and hence, wouldn't be proud of being with me, hide any type of relationship with me or just offer anonymous sex to me.
The title of my post has to do with the rejection feelings I have these days. Facebook has positive and negative effects on me. I live far away from my country so fb helps me keep in touch with family and friends, see their pics and it's a practical way to be informed about their lives, event and social invitations, etc.
Yet, I have considered closing my account at least for a while. I'm a 30 year old single woman. I'm Latin American so at my age, I'm already a spinster. The fact that I'm single at my age is not the biggest issue because I don't care what people think about my situation. What hurts me is the loneliness and feelings of inadequacy my situation provokes me.
Friends my age are mostly married or in relationships. Honestly, I feel jealous. For me it has always been so hard to keep a relationship. I recon that being single has let me have some liberties that have been beneficial but at the same time, I ask myself what is wrong with me. I have been in relationships and that is probably more than some people have achieved. Yet, I've never been in a satisfying relationship. Men that like me, well I can't like them back. Trust me, I do give them a chance and try all my best to be open and give it a go. It has never worked. I hate it but I can't help not being able to control it. I think that if I could control it I wouldn't be alone. The worst thing is that I end up hurting this men. That is why lately I won't give it a go with anyone that I feel insecure with about my feelings.
Men I like, well they don't like me back. Some years ago, I was in a relationship in which I really liked the guy and did anything I could to keep him happy. I knew deep inside that he didn't feel the same way but I made the mistake of ignoring those suspicions. I would post pics of us on fb, and he, well he posted 0 pics of us. I thought back then that maybe he wasn't a fb kind of guy. He ended up dumping me and months later started a relationship, from where he proudly post pics of him and this new gf. Was he ashamed of showing me around? I had been in a relationship years before this one in which the guy was ashamed of me and tried to hide the relationship.
So, recently I had a similar rejection. Somebody that I liked for months rejected me, played with my feelings and offered me a casual non committing relationship which I obviously rejected. I'm a good woman, how could he think I would be only good enough for sex? He knew how I felt for him and I went through a lot of **** for him, how could he offer me that? About a year ago, he was in a relationship and he posted so many pics of her, saying how beautiful he thought he was (he wrote a comment about it), looking so proud and happy to be with her. With me, he rejected me and basically left it clear that I'm not good enough and that all I can aspire to is to have sex with him. This broke my already damaged self esteem.
How could some men be loving and caring with some women and horrible with others? Sometimes I feel that I'll never fall in love and be loved back and that men I feel attracted to will always find me not good enough. I am not shallow, yet I can't control who I feel attracted to.
Then again, feelings of inadequacy invade my mind. Yesterday a guy in a restaurant said to his friends that I was a transvestite. I'm sick of people making this transvestite / transsexual comments about me. Just makes me realise that men might find me unattractive and hence, wouldn't be proud of being with me, hide any type of relationship with me or just offer anonymous sex to me.