I hate you.

[Mary Mary]

Yes. Your feelings come from habitual thoughts. You've developed the habit on focusing on the negative and fault finding and that leads to being irritated with them instead of appreciating them.
To change this, practice changing your attitude. Insert the words "tolerance" and think about what you like about them and how you appreciate them instead of how you disapprove of them. Keep practicing until the fault finding becomes a thing of the past and the new attitude is inserted.

This does work. When you first do it, it doesn't feel like anything's happening. However, it's like exercise. If you stick with you, you'll notice changes.