i just dont give a **** anymore

[chickmagneto]

I try socialising, talkin to girls ( I've been rejected 7 times) and didn't give up till now
Every conversation I have, I jst end up saying stupid ****.I keep on trying but I jst came to a point where I'm jst sick of it. I have no friends, when I txt people they ignore me.
My family is fine though, its jst the rejection and lonliness that's depressing me. I don't care about my grades ( I'm in 10th grade) whenever I try something,I fail. Wether it be talking to girls, making friends, school work.....
I don't even care if I die, noone ecxept my family would care anywhere.
I'm nice to everyone but I get nothin out of it, everyday is the same old boring ****.

I have no social life, no friends and my confidence gets lower everyday. From now on i jst say as little as I can coz if I talk for long, I end up sayin stupid things.
**** life, I jst don't care anymore ( noone will probably even reply, I know)

 

[The Good Citizen]

When you talk to girls do you talk more or listen more? If a change of approach is needed, try listening to what they say more and ask questions rather than feeling the need to impress. Once a girl feels comfortable with you, you'll probably find they will happily natter away and do the hard work for you! Just listen and show intrest and base your responses around what they have to say for themselves.

Same goes for people in general though, if you try too hard you probably will say something daft in the end out of desperation. Listen, show an interest, make them the focus, its a very positive effect on people to know they are being heard.

 

[chickmagneto]

When you talk to girls do you talk more or listen more? If a change of approach is needed, try listening to what they say more and ask questions rather than feeling the need to impress. Once a girl feels comfortable with you, you'll probably find they will happily natter away and do the hard work for you! Just listen and show intrest and base your responses around what they have to say for themselves.

Same goes for people in general though, if you try too hard you probably will say something daft in the end out of desperation. Listen, show an interest, make them the focus, its a very positive effect on people to know they are being heard.

I jst ask questions about them or comment on their hair or somethin but half the time they don't even care for what imm saying.
And for people I don't try to hard, sometimes I don't even think before I speak so its jst better if I shutup

 

[blackdot]

When you talk to girls do you talk more or listen more?

I always ask myself that question but I don't know what I do. When I go on a 1st date with a female, I tell myself that I will ask all kinds of questions about them and let them answer. That way I can listen to them and let them feel I am interested.
Then when we meet that end up constantly asking me questions I end up doing most of the talking. *laughs*

 

[SophiaGrace]

Do you know their names? It's nice if you know their names. Maybe you could say "Good morning (insert girl's name here) How are you?! It's cold outside isn't it?" or "that teacher really gave us a lot of homework!!!" or "what are you doing over spring break?"

Start up a rapport.

 

[MadMonkè]

really?

its that easy?

 

[LonelyInAtl]

Only 7 times? At least you can get women to at least talk to you. I'm not generally considered attractive to getting that far would be a miracle in and of itself.

 

[HC22]

I feel you
Have you tried talking to your family about this ? maybe they could help you out, if anything at least they could give you some emotional support ... it's easier to share the burden sometimes, keeping things inside is not always good.

I am no expert and I'm pretty much in the same situation so... I can't be much of a help.
But... you are young, nothing's lost, there is still time to change everything, don't get discouraged ok ? think of this as a fase, and even thoguh it would be better if you could find a way to get of this situation soon, there will still be plenty of occasions in life when you'll be presented the chance to have a "new start" anyway.
The time to go to university will come one day and so will the one to move to a new city if you'll feel like it ... you're still so young this is definitely not a dead end the occasions will come in the meanwhile you just have to develop the necessary skills required to socialize better, try to real self improvement books or try to go to therapy ( mention this possibility to your family ), they're both things that could help you prepare for the new occasions as well as to help you improve your current situation.



Cheer up !

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I know what you mean. It's hard socializing.

But I've learned over the years that the people who give a **** about you, are the ones you should keep in your life. Keep searching.

 

[LoneKiller]

Hi chickmagneto.

I'm sorry to hear that your life is hard right now. What you need to do is start loving and respecting yourself. You do this, then others will respect you as well. You may be striking out with the ladies, but at least you summoned the courage to try.

That's a big step. I'm no Keith Urban, and have been rejected by some ladies numerous times. Some of the ones who didn't reject me, had moms who flirted with me. I sure wish one of those mature women mothers could be Faith Hill, but it's just not in the cards. Heh.

You have shown a great amount of courage coming to this forum. Give us a chance. You just might be very glad you did. My name is LoneKiller. It's nice to meet you. It's understandable if you are nervous about sharing your problems in front of a bunch of people, but that's why the Good Lord created the private message system. Now talk to us and let's see if we can't just help you out.

Sincerely,
-LK

 

[Harkat]

I'm Nobody, please to meet you =]

I get a feeling that you may be talking to people in an effort for them to like you.
if this is right, you may just be talking to people with a goal in mind, for example, getting them to like you.
it seems to me that talking to people from your own thoughts and opinions without trying to achieve anything sets off fewer, we'll call it, alarm bells.
Like if you happen to enter an unforced conversation then perhaps talking without a goal will set them at ease.
should a person start talking to you and you get the feeling that they want something really badly from you and you don't know what they want but they keep flirting or looking at you strange and you just don't understand what they are trying to do ... would you trust them?

just a thought, if it helps, good luck!

otherwise, all the best =]
don't sweat it, you have many many many experiences ahead of you, seriously man, you have so much time ahead of you ... don't rush it.

 

[MadMonkè]

yeah it helps. thanks!

but what if there is a goal. how would i talk then?