I need to sort out my ALL experience.

[Retrospective81]

As some of you have probably noticed, I only come ere when I'm pretty down in the mouth and angry.

This as you may have seen has led to a lot of pretty nasty/hurtful posts posted at the heat at the moment that I've later deeply regretted.

How can I improve my experience here? it seems like when I'm feeling ok I don't come here and when things heat up I suddenly use this as a place to lash out (against my intentions).

How can I motivate myself to come here more often and to post my moods on a daily basis?

I don't want to use this place as an 'angry venting place' where it wills serve to alienate me from a lot of people. I feel already alot of people have stopped responding to my threads due to their content.

I'm trying my damndest to open up and be honest here.

 

[quintus]

I don't think it is necessary to come to the forum when you feel well. Not if you don't want to. That does not seem the problem. I wonder how your anger- management is working in real life? The same as here? If that is the case you really should try to work on that. Not to better the style of your presentation here, but to improve your real life experiences. I don't know you, only the tiny little bit of you that comes out onto this public place. Even if I try to get a picture of your situation, it would be very far of being complete. So giving advice is rather futile. Of course you may use this place as an "angry venting place", as you put it. But it could be helpful, for you and others, if you type the venting less impulsively. Breathe very deep, before writing. Read what you have written and edit it, if necessary. Venting is necessary from time to time. Let out steam etc. But it will not help YOU, if the reaction of your venting results in bad feelings against you. That simply will intensify your anger and in the end you will be even more isolated as you feel right now. Yours sincerely

 

[Retrospective81]

Thank you for the reply. I agree that I do need to be more constructive in regards to my venting and whatnot. Breathing exercises and editing is something that I should consider carefully before posting a thread.

 

[9006]

Most of the time when you do something when angry you regret it, it's good to take time out to think before you say things in rage.

 

[Tiina63]

Hi retrospective81, I come here more when I am feeling really sad or angry as well. Though I have also found it good to come when I don't feel quite so bad as well, as it means that I am more in a position to help others then.

 

[VanillaCreme]

How can I improve my experience here? it seems like when I'm feeling ok I don't come here and when things heat up I suddenly use this as a place to lash out (against my intentions).

How can I motivate myself to come here more often and to post my moods on a daily basis?

I don't want to use this place as an 'angry venting place' where it wills serve to alienate me from a lot of people. I feel already alot of people have stopped responding to my threads due to their content.

If you don't want to use this place as the "angry venting place" then don't. We all need to vent from time to time, and to be quite honest, I would think more people would do it, especially here. But, try coming here to read and respond to threads that you believe you have a helpful insight towards. It doesn't always have to be a negative thing. No, you don't need to come here when you're feeling okay, but when you do feel okay, you're probably thinking more clearly. When you're thinking clearly, your posts would most likely not be angry.

As far as motivation, maybe write in the diary section. Doesn't have to be long, and it doesn't have to be angry. Or maybe there's one or two threads that you'd like to check up on. I know I look on certain threads and reply if I feel like I have a useful insight.

 

[Retrospective81]

Thank you vanilla and 9006 |Im oin to try and be a bit more helpful here and Im going to revise what I say before I post it. I especially need to do this as to regards to a lot of pent up tension.

 

[Sarah_Lbnz]

I'm glad that you're reaching out for help on this issue. I like your humility, as it says a lot about your ability to grow and change.

For my anger and pent-up tension (and I also have a lot of it) I yell into a pillow, punch (soft, inanimate) objects, pace around and fantasize about awful things, do push ups or crunches, and masturbate. Not necessarily in that order, but sometimes simultaneously.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

For my anger and pent-up tension (and I also have a lot of it) I yell into a pillow, punch (soft, inanimate) objects, pace around and fantasize about awful things, do push ups or crunches, and masturbate. Not necessarily in that order, but sometimes simultaneously.

I just choked on my coffee. LMAO!

Retro, you just need to see people here as people, not things to vent at or about. There are people, with feelings, behind these usernames. You just need to treat people as people, and you won't have these issues.

 

[Shipster0958]

I tend to leave a trail of destruction when I get angry and usually my husband is the first person I huff and puff and blow his house down.

If this place is a place of negativity for you, and I don say this so you'll leave, but try another outlet when you're angry. And if you feel like it, come back this way when you're happier.

Or, utilize the diary section. Rant and pant and well...I guess do crunch/masturbate exercises? Lol

 

[Alienated]

We all have our moments, and if we were all happy campers, we wouldn't be such loners. Life is full of regrets, but if you learn from them, then it's worth it. These are just words on a post man.. I have gotten the real sticks and stones man, and my dad allot angrier, and I have been there too.

Anytime you want to talk, I got all the time in the world.