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TheRealCallie said:No, I'm not jumping to her defense at all. I'm jumping to everyone's defense that has had assumptions made about them when they don't know and can't know the situation. You aren't there, you don't know her, and you don't know the OP, so to make assumptions on why she (or anyone for that matter) did something is not your right. Perhaps it makes the OP feel better to get validation about what a horrible person she is, but it's empty validation.
I NEVER said what she did wasn't wrong. As a matter of fact, something similar to the OP has happened to me, so I know how it feels.
No, but your'e suggesting there might be extenuating circumstances we don't know of, instead of the rather more likely possibillity that the guy was being used.
AnotherLonelyGuy said:It's like this: if someone hits or is mean to the people around me or to me, I don't care what reasons that someone has. I'm done a long time ago with taking ******** based on the fact that first I should understand why a person does what it does. I don't care.
I forgive nothing and no one. Forgiving means to invite a troubled person to harm you. The OP knew this woman has a long list of problems (yes, what she had were problems). He brought this on himself.
Welfare state takes care of troubled persons. We would start an argument which would not be politically correct, I'm not interested in fighting half of the forum and getting suspended again, so let it be.
I agree, forgiveness is open to abuse. Make the effort to understand someone while they're in the midst of problem behaviour and they'll keep doing what they're doing, because the understanding is interpreted as a subtle form of approval. Leave it up to a psychiatrist (and the criminal justice system.) Offer forgiveness after a change, not before.