TheSolitaryMan
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So last Thursday I had a date with this girl I've liked for a while.
We met up, talked for about half an hour over coffee and then got some dinner at a nice place. We didn't flirt physically so much as we did previously (given it was a first date, I think), but she still seemed really interested in getting to know me.
I was expecting the conversation to be awkward, at least at first, but it flowed totally naturally right from the moment we first met up. I don't think we had a single awkward pause in the whole night.
Over the course of eating about five hours passed and neither one of us even noticed. Every topic we talked about I felt like we were really in sync, and it felt easy to make her genuinely laugh too...it was really pleasant.
While we're talking she was showing a lot of interest in seeing movies, going out to do stuff in a group, so I had high hopes for getting a second date.
So we leave, and I'm thinking "Wow, this has just been awesome. Now I just have to ask for another meet." We walk back to where she's heading home (she's getting the train).
Me: "We should do something again soon?"
Her: "Well...I guess I'll probably see you about?"
Me: "Oh, okay. Cool. Bye."
*She leaves, kind of in a rush*.
I was a bit put out by how abrupt it felt. Especially since the chances of us meeting without arranging it are pretty slim (we work at totally different places etc.)
I thought about it afterwards, and thought maybe she didn't want to miss the train (since it was there before we got there).
But even so, to go from joking about and feeling 100% comfortable talking to just suddenly hitting a solid wall of awkward was totally jarring.
It sounds pathetic, but I felt really crap afterwards despite the whole awesome experience before that. Still feel pretty lame to be honest - because I really don't understand it.
I have a history of badly overthinking things, so maybe it's just that? But I'm at a loss with what to do now. Ideas/thoughts?
We met up, talked for about half an hour over coffee and then got some dinner at a nice place. We didn't flirt physically so much as we did previously (given it was a first date, I think), but she still seemed really interested in getting to know me.
I was expecting the conversation to be awkward, at least at first, but it flowed totally naturally right from the moment we first met up. I don't think we had a single awkward pause in the whole night.
Over the course of eating about five hours passed and neither one of us even noticed. Every topic we talked about I felt like we were really in sync, and it felt easy to make her genuinely laugh too...it was really pleasant.
While we're talking she was showing a lot of interest in seeing movies, going out to do stuff in a group, so I had high hopes for getting a second date.
So we leave, and I'm thinking "Wow, this has just been awesome. Now I just have to ask for another meet." We walk back to where she's heading home (she's getting the train).
Me: "We should do something again soon?"
Her: "Well...I guess I'll probably see you about?"
Me: "Oh, okay. Cool. Bye."
*She leaves, kind of in a rush*.
I was a bit put out by how abrupt it felt. Especially since the chances of us meeting without arranging it are pretty slim (we work at totally different places etc.)
I thought about it afterwards, and thought maybe she didn't want to miss the train (since it was there before we got there).
But even so, to go from joking about and feeling 100% comfortable talking to just suddenly hitting a solid wall of awkward was totally jarring.
It sounds pathetic, but I felt really crap afterwards despite the whole awesome experience before that. Still feel pretty lame to be honest - because I really don't understand it.
I have a history of badly overthinking things, so maybe it's just that? But I'm at a loss with what to do now. Ideas/thoughts?
