Is it wrong to be glad someone is dead ?

[eris]

Just like the title says - Is it wrong to be glad or relieved that someone has died ?

 

[sadface]

depends on the situation

if you said this about your boss or something than yeah probably

if you said this about someone who was in the hospital or something and was dying a slow death than its a little more grey

idk then again right and wrong is all relative

 

[eris]

^^^ i agree

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I wasnt going to say why I want to know this, but Im going to anyway and I hope people dont take it the wrong way.

The guy that molested me for many years when I was a small child recently killed himself. He was my cousin and he got away with it.

Im glad he is dead.

But I kind of feel bad for feeling that way.
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He did a lot of other stuff too.

We are all pretty sure he molested his daughter, but she wont say anything.

He was a crackhead, and he stole probably about $50,000 of his parents and at least $2,000 off my mom. Im sure he stole a lot of things and got away with it.

He beat his wife, several times, in front of his children.

He let his 5 year old drive a car, and do other totally outrageous things

He smoked crack and marijuana in front of his children. His daughter once said to me "daddy has white smoke AND green smoke"

He was convicted of statutory rape - she was 14 and he was almost 30. He got her hooked on crack.

He baited people to get them to wreck their cars. I don't know how to explain this... His driving ability was that of a stunt driver. He would trick people into wrecking. He thought it was funny.

I could go on and on.

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If there is a devil, he was it.

Sometimes I think it was the universe that killed him, not himself. He upset the balance of good and evil and he needed to die.

I feel bad for not feeling bad.

but then I dont

No matter how bad I feel about this at the and of the day im glad he is dead.

 

[JamaisVu]

I voted "no", it's not wrong. Mistakes and bad life decisions are one thing, but I draw the line at intentionally (and repeatedly) harming other people in my view of who deserves forgiveness. I have a more lenient view of drug use than you, but his other deeds make him sound like a bit of a sociopath so in my opinion you're justified in what you feel.

 

[Sean]

Wow, he sounds terrible.

It is not wrong to be glad he's dead.

 

[eris]

sean - he was terrible. he was a monster


JamaisVu - I could have overlooked the drug bit (except doing in in front of his kids) but when crack takes over someones personality its just not the same.

Although I havent done any drugs in over 5 years I've done my share of them. When I was 17 - 23 I did a lot of LSD and Extacy, and a few years after that I nearly developed a coke habit. I even smoked it a few times ( freebased cocaine, NOT crack ) When all of my friends started to get hooked I took a good look at myself and decided to quit for good. Thats part of the reason I dont have many friends anymore. Im lucky I quit when I did.

I remember the last time I did drugs. It was the summer of '05 and I sat in my apartment, alone, and I polished off a gram of cocaine in less than an hour. I immediatly wanted more. I cried and cried, and basically had a realization that I was becoming an addict. I told all of my friends I didnt want to be associated with drugs anymore. They thought I was being a snob. Most of them are now hopelessly addicted to cocaine.

I never did drugs again.

I can remember back in '04 he said to me when he was at my moms house, " I cant believe I never did this before !!! Its the best **** ever !!" He was talking about cocaine. Three months later he was a full blown crack addict.




He hung himself from a tree with an extension cord. He didnt leave any note or explanation. I wonder what he thought of as he jumped.

 

[Brian]

Some people are a pure and honest detriment to society and have no redeeming values and no chance of reversing their patterns.

Like being glad to replace a broken belt in your engine, there is nothing wrong with being glad to have a monster gone from the world. There is no 'correcting' people like this, and they will never be sorry for what they have done.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I won't vote, for the simple reason it is about perspective. Personally, I say being glad someone is dead is kind of spiteful, even if they were a terrible person themselves. Maybe it's just the part of me that doesn't wish harm on anyone thinking this though.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Is it so much that you're glad they're dead, or just glad they aren't alive anymore? If that makes ANY sense at all, lol.

 

[eris]

^^^ thats actually a really good point, lol

I guess I just wish he never existed in the first place.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

The part of me that strives to be a compassionate person would say that it is never right to rejoice over someone's death.

The part of me that is a pretty spiteful bitch acknowledges that she has fantasized about a few scenarios that end with a state trooper coming to her door to deliver bad news - bad news which always has her tap-dancing through the kitchen.

Clearly, I have a problem reconciling those two parts of me.

That said, if someone was a destructive influence in your life, as your cousin obviously was, it is totally understandable that you'd be feeling profound relief that he is finally gone and can no longer hurt anyone.

I am very sorry to hear about what you went through.

((((Eris))))

 

[Yukhi]

Eris I fully respect how you feel since you were the victim and you were there and you knew all the pain this guy caused others and to yourself.

I voted yes though since generally my religion has influenced me and I think it's serious when life is included in the situation

.... and also because I voted before I read your second post xD so I had no idea what the person who just died was like.

 

[Cereal]

I voted no. Someone being dead, and being glad someone is dead are two completely seperate things. It isn't a nice thing to feel, but as long as you don't go out of your way to express how you are glad someone is dead, then you aren't really hurting anyone.

 

[freedom]

i think that most people would agree that it really just depends on the situation and who the person is (or, was...).

for example, i'm sure most of the world was glad when guys like adolf hitler, sadaam hussein, and lee harvey oswald died (even though i don't think oswald did it).

it's probably not okay in the eyes of God to be glad that someone died, but then again, He was probably glad when he wiped out sodom and gomorrah, so who really knows.

 

[Nina]

If I were you, in this particular situation, I wouldn't feel one single ounce of guilt for being glad he's dead. I think it may well have been the best choice he made, in his life. His death was certainly more beneficial then him molesting another innocent child. Sounds to me as if he finally came to his senses....I know this sounds terribly cold but I have always held a deep hatred for anyone who would harm a child.

 

[sadface]

i dont think anyone could blame you eris

 

[freedom]

ok, i just read the post where you described your cousin that died.

yeah... i would be glad he's dead too. **** him! what the ****'s wrong with these people? and why the hell wasn't he rotting in jail?

i'd be glad that POS is dead.

 

[Badjedidude]

Depends on the person and how you related to that person.

Also depends on how you view death and life.

 

[eris]

Thanks everyone for your support

((((((hugs to all ))))))))

This is something I generally dont talk about, to anyone, but Ive become more comfortable here.

He was about 6 years older than me, and he molested me whn I was very small, about 5-7 years old. I moved away from them so it didnt happen again until I was 14 and we moved across the street from him. I guess you can say it wasnt molesting anymore and it was full-blown rape.

I told my mom he molested me after it happened again when I was 14.

She got her sister ( his mom ) and they basically scared the **** out of me , telling me i was spitefull and mean and I shouldnt tell lies about people. His mom never forgave me for saying that. I never told anyone else. Why would I ?

why the hell wasn't he rotting in jail?

I KNOW OMG !!! He was arrested so many times ! For drugs, for driving related issues, for not paying fines, for being in a stolen car with that 14 yr old girl smoking crack .... AND HE NEVER WENT TO JAIL !!!!!!! EVER!!!!!!!

He had thousands of dollars in fines, in Bentleyville and also at least 5 other nearby towns. The cops were just sick of him. They would just write him another ticket...

He was about to lose the ability to visit his kids.

The govt. said if he failed another drug test he would lose visitation.

My family thinks this is why he killed himself.

 

[cheaptrickfan]

I told my mom he molested me after it happened again when I was 14.

She got her sister ( his mom ) and they basically scared the **** out of me , telling me i was spitefull and mean and I shouldnt tell lies about people. His mom never forgave me for saying that. I never told anyone else. Why would I?

Eris, that is just despicable! I am so sorry that your own family... your own mother... was not on your side.