It seems so easy

[Murakami_1]

it always felt like a theatre play for me. still does sometimes

I mean, if you look at the core of humanity, it is theatre....

 

[SquareBin]

I mean, if you look at the core of humanity, it is theatre....

Can't tell if it's comedy or tragedy honestly :')

 

[Murakami_1]

Can't tell if it's comedy or tragedy honestly :')

probably a mix between the two haha

 

[M_also_lonely]

In theory it shouldn't be hard right? Just talk, just be yourself and make friends.

It is so frustrating seeing everyone making friends so easy. I do my best, I go outside, I socialize, I work and hang with my colleagues. Still when socialising it seems fake and forceful. I never feel like myself, but like a robot. Imitating others to be normal. It's like I can't be myself but a version of me that I think others want to see.
It's just tiresome.

Then why do you keep doing it?

 

[Murakami_1]

Then why do you keep doing it?

Because whn I go to b ed alone I feel miserabel wehn I isolqte myself I am miserbalw I jus t want peopl around me but it semes I'm not made for it
Humans ar w social animals and i need it too but i feel wo out of place everywhere

I cant just isolate myself for some rason and I keep trying to be someone I dont konow anymore

 

[SquareBin]

Because whn I go to b ed alone I feel miserabel wehn I isolqte myself I am miserbalw I jus t want peopl around me but it semes I'm not made for it
Humans ar w social animals and i need it too but i feel wo out of place everywhere

I cant just isolate myself for some rason and I keep trying to be someone I dont konow anymore

I totally relate. we're a special breed of people that only click wih a few select people :/

 

[okidoke]

In theory it shouldn't be hard right? Just talk, just be yourself and make friends.

It is so frustrating seeing everyone making friends so easy. I do my best, I go outside, I socialize, I work and hang with my colleagues. Still when socialising it seems fake and forceful. I never feel like myself, but like a robot. Imitating others to be normal. It's like I can't be myself but a version of me that I think others want to see.
It's just tiresome.
It's ironic because people have complimented me for my people skills, but I hate it, it's not real, not authentic. Maybe i'm just scared to be myself. I don't know anymore, I feel like I have been playing a role for to long. Can't even tell anymore.

What you don’t see is that many of the people you are watching are doing the same as you. Many people struggle in similar ways for many reasons, and at your age, many are still trying to work out who they are and where they fit it. You might call yourself fake, but actually, you’re just socialising, discovering, which is fine. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’ll probably all come together in time in one way or another. Just do what interests you, explore the world as much as you can to learn how varied people and places are, and you’ll click with some better than others. You’ll get there.

 

[Murakami_1]

What you don’t see is that many of the people you are watching are doing the same as you. Many people struggle in similar ways for many reasons, and at your age, many are still trying to work out who they are and where they fit it. You might call yourself fake, but actually, you’re just socialising, discovering, which is fine. Don’t be too hard on yourself. It’ll probably all come together in time in one way or another. Just do what interests you, explore the world as much as you can to learn how varied people and places are, and you’ll click with some better than others. You’ll get there.

Thank you
Your words might not seem important but it means a lot to me.

 

[okidoke]

Thank you
Your words might not seem important but it means a lot to me.

oh I know they're important lmao. i'm glad they mean a lot to you also.

 

[Murakami_1]

oh I know they're important lmao. i'm glad they mean a lot to you also.

Hahhahaha then of importance to us both

 

[Cherubino]

go to Finland ... there people are not compelled to be social ... so much more to please others

 

[SquareBin]

go to Finland ... there people are not compelled to be social ... so much more to please others

It actually was an idea: scandinavian country seems to be more my type of personnality :´)

 

[Cherubino]

It actually was an idea: scandinavian country seems to be more my type of personnality :´)

no wonder they rank among the happiest nations in the world ... they are modest, benevolent and cooperative instead of competitive with each other

 

[SquareBin]

no wonder they rank among the happiest nations in the world ... they are modest, benevolent and cooperative instead of competitive with each other

and because their government actually work people don't feel tricked !

I learned Danish some time ago, I should try again...

 

[Cherubino]

and because their government actually work people don't feel tricked !

I learned Danish some time ago, I should try again...

I always used to say I would prefer to be garbage man in Scandinavia than CEO in my country ... unfortunately my age and health made this dream unfeasible ... don't waste time

 

[Cherubino]

sorry for hijacking the thread

 

[Murakami_1]

sorry for hijacking the thread

omg no its fine

 

[okidoke]

sorry for hijacking the thread

That was so cringey to watch. What that video outlined is very common around the world in my opinion and not just a Danish thing.

 

[Cherubino]

That was so cringey to watch. What that video outlined is very common around the world in my opinion and not just a Danish thing.

Definitely not ... in most part of the world people are competitive and also gregarious and invasive while females play hard to get and are very much into glamour looking ... not to mention success is the measure of everything

 

[okidoke]

Definitely not ... in most part of the world people are competitive and also gregarious and invasive while females play hard to get and are very much into glamour looking ... not to mention success is the measure of everything

Well my experience tells me different and I’ve travelled a fair bit. Many women I’m aware of wouldn’t like the way that guy carried himself. I didn’t see anything particularly different with the way the Danish woman reacted.