Lost To Another Online Community

[AFrozenSoul]

So I recently joined another social website. I am not going to advertise the name. The site is a fitness site. It provides exercise tracking software to the general public. The idea is to have a leveling system so that people can get some kind of extra virtual credit for working out. Being a huge fan of RPGs I went ahead and grabbed an invite, as it is in beta.

I decided that this forum was going to be different. I was going to keep my self-loathing and suicidal feelings out of this forum. I was doing a great job. Whenever I felt those feelings come up I simply came here and posted something. Then I could go back there. It was nice, I was talking to people laughing with them... however.. there is one piece of me that I do not mind. That is my curiosity. I like to seek to understand.

So I started out simple, I posted a simple thread. "Are you social at the gym?" Simple enough right, innocent enough. I stated my case, and let the thread go. Nothing big, it was met with a little hostility but I nothing too bad. Then the thread petered off topic. Then when talking to someone I mentioned how I do not understand why people put so much effort into their appearance at the gym. The gym is there to work out. Well that was the final straw that pushed me over the edge. I was accused of being a hypocrite and a misogynist. So any chance I had over there is now gone.

I was on a thin rope anyway. Despite there being a huge number of anime fans and computer people on there. I was on a think rope. You see they are all socially normal people. All of them have significant others and lots of friends. I am a social outcast. The only thing we could really relate on was our desire to work out. Many had lost lots of weight many had turned their lives around. However, that is no longer going to help me out. I have officially outcasted myself.

It is kind of sad really. Much like any social site, they have a friend system. I have only one friend, because he knows I actually get DDR. I think he just friended me because I am a member of the group he started. He has several followers. Not to mention all the females who are on there, all have the "see more" option on their followers area. I have the one and only the one. I have not really heard from him since.

Knowing this makes me want to give up. It sucks bad enough to get outcasted online... it sucks even more in reality. It just goes to show that I am probably not fit to be around people. However, I guess a soul crushing rejection at the hands of the real world is needed to drive me to kill myself.

 

[Pheenix]

Sounds like a sorry bunch for calling you a misogynist for that. Not your fault. Of course I haven't read the corresponding threads.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Well I have found that on most forums not worshiping females results in me being called misogynist.

 

[Kataphractos]

I have to agree; if I'm at the gym, I'm there to get my workout done and leave. Mainly because I hate working out and would rather build muscle by actually doing things, like baling hay, chopping wood, hiking, etc.

 

[Reggie Jected]

I gotta say, the line about being branded a misogynist for not worshipping women is a little telling. Now clearly, I don't know you and cannot say two facts about you, but if some of you verbage was along those lines, I can see how others would peg you as a woman-hater. People tend to fly off the handle when they misinterpret something, which cannot be news to anyone who has held a conversation in a forum. Have you tried to redeem yourself on this othersite? It sounded as if you were having a lot of fun there, it seems a shame to throw that away because of what looks like a defeatist attitude.

Again, I don't know you.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

The problem with small communities is that they tend to not forget things so easily. I have let the thread fall to the way side. However, I am not sure if that will fix anything. People still randomly comment on my posts and my journal, I even have a few followers. However, given the recent introduction of the member spotlight. I think some of these people are just looking for votes.

Maybe I have just lost the ability to be a part of any community.

 

[applepear]

In all honesty, I think falling out of a bunch of random online friends good-books isn't really that big of a deal. Alot of them are just strangers. So maybe you got yourself some bad rep. You can still redeem yourself. People tend to take everything to seriously online and people only see one side of the facade, which they will take to be your entire personality in concrete. But we all know we aren't like that at all. People are multi-faceted but online we are faceless and it is easier to paste a label on someone you don't know. Take your innocuous question as just that. It may have snowballed into something big, but just remember...in the grand scheme of life...this isn't as big as a deal as it seems! Take it easy!

 

[rosebud]

I don't think there is anything you should feel bad for. The forums are made so people can share their common interests and problems. You should know by now that in the real world at least 75% of the people are hypoctites, the percent online reaches almost a 100! By what you said it shouldn't surprise you. Let's say for example I login in South Park's forums and say something like "The show's not bad, but the animation is crap. I don't know why is that!" What do you think the responses will be like? A couple of years ago I joined a fitness forum, I was lifting weights pretty hard at the time and the people I met there were absolutely insane! Most had just another muscle instead of a brain... My point is this: in every board there is a tendency, either you're a maniac in the sphere or you just don't have a place there.