Lost

[Drew88]

I was cheated on by-my-now-ex girlfriend and I feel so much pain. I am sorry, I can not illiterate more.

 

[mawmaw]

Pain will go away eventually. Keep yourself busy not to think about it that much. and do not overrate it. people come people go.

 

[Drew88]

Pain will go away eventually. Keep yourself busy not to think about it that much. and do not overrate it. people come people go.

More backgound: lost my virginity to her, 1st girl I lived with, and 1st REAL relationship.

Can NOT sleep, and do not feel like doing anything.

 

[jetsuo]

I feel for you mate. I've been there. This sort of does happen and its sad when it does. You go to a real dark place, but trust me it gets does better in time. You'll be a stronger person for it in the end, and you will meet the right person in the end.

 

[Drew88]

I feel for you mate. I've been there. This sort of does happen and its sad when it does. You go to a real dark place, but trust me it gets does better in time. You'll be a stronger person for it in the end, and you will meet the right person in the end.

Sad fact, but thats not always the case in life for everyone.

 

[mawmaw]

i know that it sounds like it is never going to happen but trust me, stuff like that happens to everyone all the time and it is in our nature to get over such miseries. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery that's why today called as a gift. When you get over it you'll realise that it was never worth to upset yourself. And like they said you'll be stronger. Now you are in denial but it is just a phase that you are going through.

 

[Okiedokes]

Just really really look at what she did though.. and a more clearer judgement of her will start to form. Your heart might not see it..but your brain will start to see it. Try not to get too vulnerable also..if possible.. :\ easier said than done.

 

[Drew88]

i know that it sounds like it is never going to happen but trust me, stuff like that happens to everyone all the time and it is in our nature to get over such miseries. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery that's why today called as a gift. When you get over it you'll realise that it was never worth to upset yourself. And like they said you'll be stronger. Now you are in denial but it is just a phase that you are going through.

Well said, but you are not guarantee Progress.

Just really really look at what she did though.. and a more clearer judgement of her will start to form. Your heart might not see it..but your brain will start to see it. Try not to get too vulnerable also..if possible.. :\ easier said than done.

I already know why she did it.

 

[Okiedokes]

I don't know what that reason is, but there is never a good reason to cheat imo.

 

[Drew88]

I don't know what that reason is, but there is never a good reason to cheat imo.

agreed

 

[Gutted]

Just really really look at what she did though.. and a more clearer judgement of her will start to form. Your heart might not see it..but your brain will start to see it. Try not to get too vulnerable also..if possible.. :\ easier said than done.

This. Your Ex, by cheating, just showed you that she isn't worth being with.

 

[BrokenInside]

"The past can be escaped only by embracing something better."

Nicholas Sparks

 

[Drew88]

Just really really look at what she did though.. and a more clearer judgement of her will start to form. Your heart might not see it..but your brain will start to see it. Try not to get too vulnerable also..if possible.. :\ easier said than done.

This. Your Ex, by cheating, just showed you that she isn't worth being with.

true that

"The past can be escaped only by embracing something better."

Nicholas Sparks

if only that better presents itself

 

[Trent]

find the spirituality in your life

some things are beyond the scope of the human spirit

and must be supported by the divine

 

[ladyforsaken]

I'm sorry Drew. Try to keep positive, okay?
Time heals all wounds. Please take care.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

After my gf and I saperated. I felt very hurted by it all.
The emotional roller coaster was narley....
I simply embraced my pains. I stopped figthing myself. I also stop fighting the fact that I love her.
The more people told me to stop loving her or tell me how of a bitch she is...the more I got pissed.

I also spoke to a person that was willing to listen to me nor was judgemental.
Nor told me how to feel or think. Nor told me to stop loving her. Nor to stop hurting nor pretend I wasnt
hurting. I also started drinking more than I used too for a while. The pain was too unbearable for me.
She didnt tell me what to do nor made me feel guilty about. She said she was concern.
I was like a son to her. My own mother also didnt tell me how to feel nor told me to stop loving her.

Gradually...a lot faster than I would after a break up. The ironic twist is...I felt more hurted than ever.
I started going out. I move forward. I couldnt sit home alone and drown in my misery. Nor did I
told my sob stories to people or other women I met in bars.
The ironic twist is...I started dating women again that I didnt meet in bars. Nor where they relationship material.
It was all part of the process...I stop fighting it and went with the flow. It was a hell of fun for whatever it was worth.
Women actaully came out of the woodworks. I didnt have to tried so hard. Cuase I didnt really gave a ****
one way or the other anymore, Nor was I looking for miss right anymore.....

I suffer from the I'll show you bitch and ******* syndrom.lol

Never the less....It finally hit me oneday or the universe sent me lesson when I was ready for it.
I stayed open to that. It came in a form of the law of attractions.....
Becuase I was talking to the lady the was listening to me...telling the same old **** over and over again.
Life is not without pains...but suffernings is optional.

Anyways...The law of attractions hitted me right between the eyes.
The first lesson I had to learn was really really ****** up....
But it was straight up.

NO matter how ****** I felt or how ****** my life situations was....I had to find a way
to be positive. I have to find a way to feel good....straight up.
So i stopped crying like a little bitch and followed the instructions of pivoting
from negative to positive...simple **** but not easy.

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I have to be positve with or without her...

The separations lasted 6 months. I nevered contacted my GF nor did she contacted me.
Sometimes I would look at her pictures...the happy moments we had together...
Whatever makes me feels good or trigger positive feelings..

I guess it works. She contacted me out of the blues oneday...
I was really kind da getting sick N tired of partying with those younger women.
I remember that day very well....even though I wasnt really expecting to hear from her
again , ever.....

We reunited....We sitll have our ups and downs.,,but were actaully closer.
Never the less...when we get into a fight or when I feel some negative vibes...
I simply ask her if I can take a break to gather myself...Basically I practice
focusing on trigger positive thoughts and feelings....
Whatever it maybe...the cool breeze on my skin.
Things to be gratful for....ect
Generally things works out for the better or we both mellow out. make love instead of fighting.

As far as what my gf did when we separated...I dont really wanna know or figure that **** out.
Becuase when i try to figure it out,,,Im still in the problem....
I learned these lesson from the sedona methode. Let go.
When I let go...Im in the salutions....

Let go and focus on being positive.

I have controll over me not her.....

 

[Arod86]

I know how you feel drew. I just had my first real girlfriend at the beginning of this year and also lost my virginity to her as well (im 25 btw). but the relationship didnt even last but maybe 3 weeks before she broke up with me. I guess I didnt know what I was really doing cause honestly I thought I was really in love and I told her that and I guess she just played along by telling me the same thing. then just like a lightswitch flipped, she told me that she couldnt date anyone at the moment and that was the end of it. I guess the whole thing was a game to her? cause I really thought I found someone special but I was wrong i guess?

 

[TicTac]

1+1=0. at the end of the life you cant do anything. death is certain and life is not. if you feel like you are lost dont lie to people. tell them the truth even you dont believe it. it will become your truth if you believe in yourself and will help you to sleep nicely at nights which i cant. even if you arent lost or lost, being productive or not. when you die it equals to zero. dont give an f about the past because its happened. also no point in caring about tomorrow which you cant seize. live your present time wisely. do whatever you like to do. some people are free to do anything they want. but some people are more free to not to do what they dont want to. you cant have them both or you can i dont know. but all i can say is you have that time. float your boat as how you like. you need a reason to sleep when you go to bed. people live behind the moments. if im spending my time to write this its not because i care of any of you its because i am a wise man and i want you guys to spend your time when you got so much