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ShybutHi
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"Love shyness" is a term used to describe men with a kind of chronic shyness which makes it extremely difficult for them to be assertive in informal situations involving potential romantic partners. Having said this, I must tell you that these men are perfectly normal. They have perfectly functional sexuality, they are healthy, they are heterosexual and they might well make great lovers.
The only issue is the preconceived notions that they have about themselves which makes them feel inferior to others especially in social situations. In addition these notions also tell them that they cannot keep their partners happy and hence will eventually be rejected. The extreme fear of rejection is what makes them turn down any potential approaches made by woman towards them. But deep down within, they are desperately longing to develop intimate relationship with the member of the opposite sex.
1.) A love shy male is generally a virgin even at a very high age like 25 and above and will not have had any intimate relationship with members of the opposite sex.
2.) Such men rarely go out with women socially, they avoid social gatherings and are generally introverts.
3.) They do not develop friendships easily and talk only to those with whom they feel comfortable and those with whom they do not feel the fear of rejection.
4.) He is strictly heterosexual and longs desperately to have intimate relationship with a member of the opposite sex, but stays back cause of fear of getting rejected
5.) He is a man who has suffered and is continuously suffering emotionally cause of lack of meaningful female companionship
Well that sum's me up perfectly... **** this affliction!
I thought I would share this as there are probably other's on this forum who suffer from this. When I say "suffer", it is because it is either a cause of anxiety in some or because of the anxiety in the first place... but ofcourse there are usually many factor's involved. As the term is specifically relationship based I thought I would post it on the relationship's subforum.
Any comment's on this issue?