Making friends with people you've known for a while, but never really talked to?

[thatguy000]

I'm in grade 12 and at my school theres a pretty small grad class where everyone knows of everyone. I have a small group of friends but I'm wanting to get to know other people a bit more, since the people I hang out with now are
A) All girls (I'm a guy and I need dude friends sometimes) and
B) Kind different than when I met them, not exactly in a good way
I havent really talked to other people in the school much, yet I've been there for 3 years now. I feel really awkward just saying hi to someone who I've known for that long but never really gotten to know. I'm afraid they'll think its really out of the blue and for no real reason.
Any tips on how to get around to making more friends in this kind of situation?

 

[Sean]

I'm in grade 12 and at my school theres a pretty small grad class where everyone knows of everyone. I have a small group of friends but I'm wanting to get to know other people a bit more, since the people I hang out with now are
A) All girls (I'm a guy and I need dude friends sometimes) and
B) Kind different than when I met them, not exactly in a good way
I havent really talked to other people in the school much, yet I've been there for 3 years now. I feel really awkward just saying hi to someone who I've known for that long but never really gotten to know. I'm afraid they'll think its really out of the blue and for no real reason.
Any tips on how to get around to making more friends in this kind of situation?

All girl friends . Sounds pretty good to me.

Do you usually sit with your group of friends in class?
Try sitting in a different spot than usual.
Maybe start a conversation with the person or people beside you about the class or homework?

Maybe try out for a sports team, join a club that you're interested in . . I don't know, it's easier to be friends with people with similar interests.

Best of luck.

 

[Enchanted Girl]

The only way to do this is to stop caring what they think. (Easier said then done, I know.) Because at least some of them probably WILL be confused as to why you're suddenly talking to them after all this time.

My boyfriend is really good at making friends and he also tends not to care if the other person wants to be his friend or not first. XD Him and several of his friends told me that they had no interest in talking to him at all and actually thought he was weird when they first met him, but he kept pestering them to be his friend and now they are extremely loyal to him. Some people need a little convincing first before you can become friends with them, I guess.

Either way, though, the worst that can happen is that they still continue to not be your friends. Not talking to them just guarantees that this will happen, but giving it a shot means that you might be pleasantly surprised by a new friendship.

 

[eris]

Kind different than when I met them, not exactly in a good way

If you dont like the "core" of a person dont even bother, in my opinion. But if you like someone it is worth a friendship and you should try to talk to them more I guess. I dont really like talking to people someimes, though....

Youre going to be done with school in a few months and then you will meet other people. If you want to keep in touch with someone from high school you have to actually try. Most people just dissapear.

 

[Badjedidude]

Walk right up and introduce yourself.

Might as well start things with some panache.

 

[futurecatlady]

thatguy, I am really shy and socially awkward around new people, so this actually happens to me quite a bit. I linger silently in a group for a while, then randomly, once I feel comfortable with their presence, a conversation will start. That's my "in", and from there things become warmer. So basically, it's possible. I suggest smiling at people when you catch their eye, bringing up an especially hard assignment you both have to do, bitch about a teacher.