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[Fletch]

Hi everyone,

My first post as well. I found this site today after typing lonely into google. Sorry for the self pity I hate my life. After living on my own, I have had to move back in with my parents.

My mother badgers me every other day about my weight(I have put on a few stone, around 16 and a half stone), calling me obese and stating I am eating myself to death, this is leaving aside comments on my being single at 29. I hate my job, have no friends, and the only woman I have ever really loved, doesnt love me(I havent seen her in over 2 years now).

I feel worthless and just feel like I am waiting on the reaper.

This may all sound very self-obsessed. But I want to change. My question is this. How do I change my mindset?

 

[Nina]

Focus on you first...Exercise and good eating habits will give you energy, stamina and a nice endorphine boost making other things feel more tolerable. It'll be tough to start but within a few weeks the results will fuel you further. It'll quiet mom down too if she sees an effort.

Then you have to put yourself out there. There is no other way to meet friends and lovers in the real world but to put yourself among the living and live with them. Sure, there will be rejection at times and disappointment, there are difficult and upsetting moments for us all. But it's worth the effort and occassional upset just to know you can do it.

 

[Calm]

Think rationally. Constantly telling yourself that you are worthless usually makes you feel even more sad, isn't it so?
Get yourself one small goal, that you feel you can achieve. It could be anything at first, and when you have finished it, you move on to another goal.

 

[Tex Is Lost]

Hi everyone,

My first post as well. I found this site today after typing lonely into google. Sorry for the self pity I hate my life. After living on my own, I have had to move back in with my parents.

My mother badgers me every other day about my weight(I have put on a few stone, around 16 and a half stone), calling me obese and stating I am eating myself to death, this is leaving aside comments on my being single at 29. I hate my job, have no friends, and the only woman I have ever really loved, doesnt love me(I havent seen her in over 2 years now).

I feel worthless and just feel like I am waiting on the reaper.

This may all sound very self-obsessed. But I want to change. My question is this. How do I change my mindset?

tell your Mother this: I don't lose weight because I'm not a loser
besides...I've got you beat by quite a lot