athwart said:
Putter, it seems that she likes you.
Thanks for your kind words everybody !
I've thought long and hard about this over the last few months. I've asked my brother for advice, he's had loads of girlfriends. I've mentioned it to this female friend I've got. I've wrote messages on other forums. On one site the thread went on for 53 pages !
There is so much more to tell, I'll try and keep it brief. I'm 42, she's 30. She's stunning, I'm not. When we worked together, the other staff made all kinds of comments in front of us. It was common knowledge that I liked her. I refused to talk about her to others unless I had to. When she left in January she cried in front of me three times. It was all very emotional. I've never had an experience like it. Everytime she starting crying I did as well. I gave her a leaving present and she hugged me. (I've never had so many body to body hugs in my life , lol !)
On the day she left I went to see her and she made a speech saying how much she enjoyed working with me etc. She gave me her mobile number. I thought might as well tell her her how I feel so I said, 'I think the world of you ! You know that don't you ?' - she replied 'yes I do and I think your a lovely, genuine guy !'
All of that I can understand, nice woman is nice to an older guy who has a crush on her. I get that.
Anyway, a couple of days later we exchange a few texts and she mentions playing golf with me. I don't take it that seriously but when she comes to my work a week later to do some training, she mentions it again. About 6 weeks later on facebook, she mentions it again. I had suggested waiting until the summer (when the course dries up - regretted that big style !) - so on March 10th we go and she caddies for me. Had a great time, no nerves. We both mentioned playing again. Yet 4 days later she is not replying to my texts. Of course I get a bit upset about it thinking I had done something wrong. I felt really bad. It wasn't until she chopped half of her facebook friends and kept me that I felt better about things.
What I find strange is she knows I like her, she must do yet she is willing to spend time with me. She's not nasty at all, she is very nice so it's not like she is teasing me or anything. I do think I am probably a refreshing change for her. She does seem to attract loads of men and maybe I am different to all of them. eg quiet, shy, undemanding etc.