Moving to University

[Guest]

Hey I just found this board and can't believe how many people feel the same way I do.

I just moved to university today, which is a normal place to feel lonely when you just arrive, I guess but I'm missing my family already. I was just so comfortable in familiar surroundings (home) over the summer and now I'm in a totally alien place. I'm not good at meeting people, I'm too self-conscious and I only have a few real friends at other unis, a long way away. People who I talked to at high school have not kept in contact with me over the summer (nor I with them) except a select few who I never do anything with despite them being my best friends. I just got invited to go with the people in my halls for the evening meal in my catered accomodation but turned it down because I have a induction talk in an hour, but I don't know if that is just a lousy excuse or if I am genuinely worried I will miss it. I tend to make excuses for this sort of thing a lot.

I just wanted to get how I feel down and maybe I will feel a little better.

 

[Sunday]

Hey! I know exactly how you feel! I remember how it was for me when I first moved to college. I was soooo homesick and lonely. I didn't know anyone and I was too scared to go out and try anything by myself. Also, I didn't know the campus very well, so whenever I did go out within the first few days, I would get lost, lol. But I promise it will get better. Now I am a senior and I like college better than home, and I am a real homebody. Just take baby steps. All sorts of clubs have interst meetings at the beginning of the year, so they are always looking for new people. You can probably meet some people in the same boat as you. You can also try meeting people in your classes. Talk to the people around you. Go a little early so you can gather yourself and have a few moments to see who's in your classes. Find different ways to get involved in campus life. Don't make anymore excuses (you're just like me). The earlier you jump in, the better. Just remember that you are not alone. Several people are in your shoes. You're not the only one feeling this way, I promise! Just keep at it and you'll make progress soon. Let me know how it goes!

 

[suna]

i ve been studying abroad on scholarships since secondary school. i m currently in uni ;p
have to deal with everything myself that bugs me but o.o
things will get more organized soon xD
and i guess just be yourself is fine. i dont go for a lot of hall activities either but as long as you are familiar with the people around that's not called anti social right o.o~ ? who am i asking...
*bows*

 

[Crew99]

I was in uni but found the social scene too stressful. I majored in bio and had tons of studying to do and never enough time for for anything...even to eat sometimes. I'd go to school after getting like 5 hours of sleep, go to my classes and can never seem to find friends. In class there's NO time at all the discuss something with a classmate since we're all listening to a lecture and after class everyone's off in a hury to get to their other class or whereever they're off too. Going to school was a miserable experience. I felt invisible and detached from the rest of the world. I'd walk to my classes seeing all these people in cliques walking side by side with their friends and i'm wondering to myself WHY doesn't that happen to me?? I did meet a few acquaintances but these people aren't really the type I'd normally chill with and even those people were super busy. Whats worse is that I took school sooo seriously I HAD to get A's....I was like obbessed with it cause for me at the time getting less than an A was failure. So I met a few friends in one my classes one was this guy and he invited me to a party, but he lived kinda far away and I was crammed with all this reading i had to do plus my car broke down at the time and couldn't drive there. He kept asking me to come and i turned him down. I felt bad. After the semester was over I never heard from him again. NOW I WISH I WENT TO THE STUPID PARTY! Maybe I'd have friends...Someone just shoot me!!

 

[NewBirth]

...Someone just shoot me!!

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