ladyforsaken
Well-known member
For the past couple of days, I've felt so compelled to write a post about how I feel. I probably shouldn't feel the need to justify myself to others who don't give a **** about me but I feel like I need to do this, for my own sake and my own peace of mind.
People often see what's on the surface and make judgement based on what they see and observe. Being on this forum for a few years now has made me a victim of both positive and negative judgement from people all around here, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
I'm so tired of people saying things about me when they don't know **** about me and my life. It's okay if they keep it to themselves but when they go around pouring salt into the wound knowing that I would totally know what they're on about, that's just not right. What did I do to them to ever deserve it? I know this is a stupid question, because people don't do things reasonably. They do things selfishly.
A lot of people think that I, ladyforsaken..:
... and add on to the list if you have another opinion of me here.
Little do people know that none of the above are true and little do people know that there's more to why I'm here a lot than just to post or spam the forum with posts.
I know it probably isn't necessary or important or would make any difference but I want to put this out there because I'm truthfully hurt by what some people have said or thought about me despite having given my explanation or reasons for whatever I do here.
So here's the real deal. None of the above list is true. Sorry to disappoint.
I'm a loner by choice and I don't talk to a lot of people. Sure, I try to reach out to people here, but that's nothing new cos it's been the main reason why I'm here and why I do what I do on here.
I don't enjoy attention, neither do I have an army of followers behind me. I'm not popular, you can't judge that by the number of rep points I have or by how active I am on the forum. It doesn't mean ****.
Before I got diagnosed with a second cancer last February, I had a decent 8:30am to 6pm job, I joined a gym that I go to after work, I work out at home on other days, I do regular weekly house chores and enjoyed them, I do the grocery shopping all by myself.
After I got sick again, all these things were robbed off of me. I couldn't do anything without the supervision of another person. I can't do vigorous or heavy activities. I can't run because I might fall or hit something and that could cause a whole lot of ****. I can't have some of my favourite foods anymore. I can't do what I normally would be able to do.
My life for the past 6 to 7 months, have been mostly about chemo on a daily basis, and breaks in between to let my body recuperate from it. I have had to deal with a lot of nausea, headaches, tummy aches, diarrhea, memory loss, confusion, pain, bleeding, breathlessness, have had my life on the line a few times now even after my discharge from the hospital and just physically, and emotionally battered down beyond belief.
I deal with a huge financial debt right now, about $10k in my currency, due to my unemployment and being unable to pay the housing loans and ****. And I've had to put some of my wants and plans on hold because my ****** up life is on hold.
But just because I don't whine about these things daily or talk about them doesn't mean I don't go through them. Doesn't mean I have a peachy life where it's a bed of roses where you see me on the forum a lot spamming my way around with posts, be it useful or pointless.
No. I'm here to help myself. Not just to help people anymore, but now, it's for me too. I need it to help me forget all the pain, the worries, the suffering that I feel inside. I need it to keep me sane and feel somewhat "normal" in just one tiny aspect of my life cos everything else has changed. Believe it or not, this forum is my coping mechanism.
I'm not on the forum to earn favours, earn likes or gain popularity. I'm not on here to be followed or to have followers or an army of people. I was here to give back to the online community for whatever help I received from other strangers. I want to help others in return. I'm now here not just to do that, but to help myself too.
Oh, and I do have hobbies. They include gaming, reading and just watching movies, shows or videos, besides the forum, of course.
Some people think that my presence on the forum is annoying. Fine, that's their opinion. Feel free to have me on your ignore list if so. But if these people have got nothing nice or beneficial to say to me or about me, I really wish they'd shut it and keep their ignorant and selfish thoughts and comments to themselves. It's enough **** that I have to deal with in my daily life right now, I don't need to see anymore of it online or here on this forum where I find entertainment.
You can say I could put these people on my ignore list, but hey, that's not my style. If I have a problem with someone, I'd talk to them about it.
I guess the whole point of this post, is just to make it clear to people out there - that I'm not on this forum for the fun of it, or for spamming reasons. I'm on the forum to help and be helped. Just like everyone else. Other people post just as much as I do too, on the games and other topical threads. I want to make it clear that I don't have a privileged life just because it seems like a lot of people like me. My life sucks, and you can have it if you think otherwise, but I honestly wouldn't give it to anyone because that would be really cruel of me to give them my suffering.
I also want to make it clear that I'm not going to whine and complain every single day about my pains and worries and challenges. I'd rather spend them commenting on other people's posts, reaching out to them, or just posting game responses and songs to help me get by. My life is hard enough, I'm not gonna let myself make it harder by whining about it. So I want to make it clear to people, that just because I seem okay and I can smile and laugh and give hugs, it doesn't mean that I am internally. It doesn't mean that I'm not suffering.
I also finally, want to say, that it hurts me to have people think so lowly of me after knowing me long enough. I am deeply hurt by the fact that some people never change, especially when I thought they have, for the better.
P.S.
If anyone has issues with me, I'd really rather they have the decency to PM me about it, confront me, tell it to me personally, or an alternative if they really don't want to deal with it, is to block me and then shut up. Have that decency or maybe, the guts to do so, especially if they're going around being passive-aggressive because I think that's just really insensitive, cowardly, and selfish.
People often see what's on the surface and make judgement based on what they see and observe. Being on this forum for a few years now has made me a victim of both positive and negative judgement from people all around here, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
I'm so tired of people saying things about me when they don't know **** about me and my life. It's okay if they keep it to themselves but when they go around pouring salt into the wound knowing that I would totally know what they're on about, that's just not right. What did I do to them to ever deserve it? I know this is a stupid question, because people don't do things reasonably. They do things selfishly.
A lot of people think that I, ladyforsaken..:
- am living the life of a popular girl on here;
- have a legion of followers;
- talk to a lot of people;
- have a lot of friends;
- enjoys a lot of attention;
- do not have major problems in life;
- am having the time of my life;
- have so much awesome free time;
- enjoy my days without a job or any particular hobbies;
- have no hobbies other than posting on the forum
- have got nothing better to do than to spend time on the forum;
- am happy to spam the forum with so many posts some of which people think, are pointless;
- have a pretty good life because of all the above....
... and add on to the list if you have another opinion of me here.
Little do people know that none of the above are true and little do people know that there's more to why I'm here a lot than just to post or spam the forum with posts.
I know it probably isn't necessary or important or would make any difference but I want to put this out there because I'm truthfully hurt by what some people have said or thought about me despite having given my explanation or reasons for whatever I do here.
So here's the real deal. None of the above list is true. Sorry to disappoint.
I'm a loner by choice and I don't talk to a lot of people. Sure, I try to reach out to people here, but that's nothing new cos it's been the main reason why I'm here and why I do what I do on here.
I don't enjoy attention, neither do I have an army of followers behind me. I'm not popular, you can't judge that by the number of rep points I have or by how active I am on the forum. It doesn't mean ****.
Before I got diagnosed with a second cancer last February, I had a decent 8:30am to 6pm job, I joined a gym that I go to after work, I work out at home on other days, I do regular weekly house chores and enjoyed them, I do the grocery shopping all by myself.
After I got sick again, all these things were robbed off of me. I couldn't do anything without the supervision of another person. I can't do vigorous or heavy activities. I can't run because I might fall or hit something and that could cause a whole lot of ****. I can't have some of my favourite foods anymore. I can't do what I normally would be able to do.
My life for the past 6 to 7 months, have been mostly about chemo on a daily basis, and breaks in between to let my body recuperate from it. I have had to deal with a lot of nausea, headaches, tummy aches, diarrhea, memory loss, confusion, pain, bleeding, breathlessness, have had my life on the line a few times now even after my discharge from the hospital and just physically, and emotionally battered down beyond belief.
I deal with a huge financial debt right now, about $10k in my currency, due to my unemployment and being unable to pay the housing loans and ****. And I've had to put some of my wants and plans on hold because my ****** up life is on hold.
But just because I don't whine about these things daily or talk about them doesn't mean I don't go through them. Doesn't mean I have a peachy life where it's a bed of roses where you see me on the forum a lot spamming my way around with posts, be it useful or pointless.
No. I'm here to help myself. Not just to help people anymore, but now, it's for me too. I need it to help me forget all the pain, the worries, the suffering that I feel inside. I need it to keep me sane and feel somewhat "normal" in just one tiny aspect of my life cos everything else has changed. Believe it or not, this forum is my coping mechanism.
I'm not on the forum to earn favours, earn likes or gain popularity. I'm not on here to be followed or to have followers or an army of people. I was here to give back to the online community for whatever help I received from other strangers. I want to help others in return. I'm now here not just to do that, but to help myself too.
Oh, and I do have hobbies. They include gaming, reading and just watching movies, shows or videos, besides the forum, of course.
Some people think that my presence on the forum is annoying. Fine, that's their opinion. Feel free to have me on your ignore list if so. But if these people have got nothing nice or beneficial to say to me or about me, I really wish they'd shut it and keep their ignorant and selfish thoughts and comments to themselves. It's enough **** that I have to deal with in my daily life right now, I don't need to see anymore of it online or here on this forum where I find entertainment.
You can say I could put these people on my ignore list, but hey, that's not my style. If I have a problem with someone, I'd talk to them about it.
I guess the whole point of this post, is just to make it clear to people out there - that I'm not on this forum for the fun of it, or for spamming reasons. I'm on the forum to help and be helped. Just like everyone else. Other people post just as much as I do too, on the games and other topical threads. I want to make it clear that I don't have a privileged life just because it seems like a lot of people like me. My life sucks, and you can have it if you think otherwise, but I honestly wouldn't give it to anyone because that would be really cruel of me to give them my suffering.
I also want to make it clear that I'm not going to whine and complain every single day about my pains and worries and challenges. I'd rather spend them commenting on other people's posts, reaching out to them, or just posting game responses and songs to help me get by. My life is hard enough, I'm not gonna let myself make it harder by whining about it. So I want to make it clear to people, that just because I seem okay and I can smile and laugh and give hugs, it doesn't mean that I am internally. It doesn't mean that I'm not suffering.
I also finally, want to say, that it hurts me to have people think so lowly of me after knowing me long enough. I am deeply hurt by the fact that some people never change, especially when I thought they have, for the better.
P.S.
If anyone has issues with me, I'd really rather they have the decency to PM me about it, confront me, tell it to me personally, or an alternative if they really don't want to deal with it, is to block me and then shut up. Have that decency or maybe, the guts to do so, especially if they're going around being passive-aggressive because I think that's just really insensitive, cowardly, and selfish.