alex141
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Hey all, I'm Alex and I'm a 36 year old male in Pennsylvania.
I've been a long time lurker of the forums & now I'm a first time poster (I finally worked up enough nerve to subscribe today).
I'm extremely introverted so I don't mind at all spending time by myself 50% & maybe even up to 75% of the time. But it's the remaining other 25% that leaves me feeling devoid of life and extremely lonely.
I used to be married, but my wife left me for another a few years ago. Enough time has passed to heal the wound of lost love, but when she left I lost my best and only real friend...the one I shared everything with and told everything to. I guess what I'm trying to say is she was the one person I completely trusted enough to be completely open & honest with about everything. And losing that avenue is what hurt the most.
Though I have several friends that I text & PM, I rarely talk to them on the phone and usually only see them a couple times a year at most. While even the simplest contact is nice, the lack of any deep, meaningful friendships leaves me feeling very lonely. I'm pretty much the same way at work, too. I say hi & the occasional sentence or two to my co-workers, but that's about it.
At my age, my biggest fear is that I'm heading down a path of spending the rest of my days in total isolation. I don't want that to happen. And I do the right things every day...I put on a happy face, I encourage myself with positive thoughts, I exercise, I eat healthy, etc. But I'm still trying to find that other 25%.
Just wondering if anyone has gone down this same road (or is currently on this same road) and what you've done to make it better?
I've been a long time lurker of the forums & now I'm a first time poster (I finally worked up enough nerve to subscribe today).
I'm extremely introverted so I don't mind at all spending time by myself 50% & maybe even up to 75% of the time. But it's the remaining other 25% that leaves me feeling devoid of life and extremely lonely.
I used to be married, but my wife left me for another a few years ago. Enough time has passed to heal the wound of lost love, but when she left I lost my best and only real friend...the one I shared everything with and told everything to. I guess what I'm trying to say is she was the one person I completely trusted enough to be completely open & honest with about everything. And losing that avenue is what hurt the most.
Though I have several friends that I text & PM, I rarely talk to them on the phone and usually only see them a couple times a year at most. While even the simplest contact is nice, the lack of any deep, meaningful friendships leaves me feeling very lonely. I'm pretty much the same way at work, too. I say hi & the occasional sentence or two to my co-workers, but that's about it.
At my age, my biggest fear is that I'm heading down a path of spending the rest of my days in total isolation. I don't want that to happen. And I do the right things every day...I put on a happy face, I encourage myself with positive thoughts, I exercise, I eat healthy, etc. But I'm still trying to find that other 25%.
Just wondering if anyone has gone down this same road (or is currently on this same road) and what you've done to make it better?
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