Revengineer
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So there's this female friend of mine. (LONG STORY ALERT!)
We go way back... before we were in high school, but we didn't become close until we were both in college. She's pretty much the only person from my high school that I still see on a regular basis. We try to meet up whenever I'm on break from school, usually for a meal and then whatever random activity we've decided on for that day. We have a lot of fun together and have a good thing going, is what I'm saying.
We are practically polar opposites of each other. She's outgoing and confident, while I'm shy and introverted. I'm a science geek, while she can't remember the freezing temperature of water. She's had a generous share of dating experience, while I've never had anyone. Worst of all, she listens to country music and gangsta rap while I prefer video game and classical music
. Still I appreciate that she's an honest, ambitious person with a good sense of humor. It's kind of ironic that I kept in touch with her out of all the people I used to get along with in high school. I never considered her to be my type in a romantic sense but always found her company refreshing, and we would often joke about my failed attempts at finding a date. I have to emphasize, this was a completely platonic friendship for years and it was never even a topic of discussion for either of us. Okay moving on...
We've started meeting up again since it's now my summer break, but lately I feel like she's been acting different around me. Well not that different actually, except she's a lot more "touchy" than she usually is. Little things like touching my arm to get my attention, and having it linger. Or teasing me by patting my head or messing with the back of my neck and ear. One time we were playing a game on her phone the other day at her apartment, and she showed me how to play by swiping her finger across my arm a couple of times. She went out of her way to do it, if you know what I mean. If it were just one or two instances I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, but I'm noticing a definite trend of her being more comfortable physically with me. I don't know if any of it means anything, except I think I've now developed a bit of crush on her. It doesn't take very much for me to feel this way since any deliberate physical contact from a female is like a gift from heaven... yes I'm pathetic, I know...
Here's the thing though... she's currently "involved" with two other guys but isn't committed to either of them. They also don't know of each others' existence. One of them is her old boyfriend whom she broke up with due to distance reasons *cough*but they still kind of like each other so it's like they're still together even though they've decided to see other people*cough*. The other guy is decent but also kind of a controlling jerk, and she told me she isn't that into him but likes him enough to stay with him casually for the time being. I think this entire situation smells btw, and have told her as such. She claims she likes things the way they are now. It's her life, right? But it makes her intentions that much murkier. Not to mention severely limits my options here as I'm reluctant to throw my hat into the ring, as it were.
My instincts tell me she's trying to flirt with me but my brain is telling me there's nothing going on here... and I don't trust my instincts in the first place, so yeah I'm 120% confused right now. I think I just need someone to confirm that I'm being delusional. Any volunteers?
We go way back... before we were in high school, but we didn't become close until we were both in college. She's pretty much the only person from my high school that I still see on a regular basis. We try to meet up whenever I'm on break from school, usually for a meal and then whatever random activity we've decided on for that day. We have a lot of fun together and have a good thing going, is what I'm saying.
We are practically polar opposites of each other. She's outgoing and confident, while I'm shy and introverted. I'm a science geek, while she can't remember the freezing temperature of water. She's had a generous share of dating experience, while I've never had anyone. Worst of all, she listens to country music and gangsta rap while I prefer video game and classical music
. Still I appreciate that she's an honest, ambitious person with a good sense of humor. It's kind of ironic that I kept in touch with her out of all the people I used to get along with in high school. I never considered her to be my type in a romantic sense but always found her company refreshing, and we would often joke about my failed attempts at finding a date. I have to emphasize, this was a completely platonic friendship for years and it was never even a topic of discussion for either of us. Okay moving on...We've started meeting up again since it's now my summer break, but lately I feel like she's been acting different around me. Well not that different actually, except she's a lot more "touchy" than she usually is. Little things like touching my arm to get my attention, and having it linger. Or teasing me by patting my head or messing with the back of my neck and ear. One time we were playing a game on her phone the other day at her apartment, and she showed me how to play by swiping her finger across my arm a couple of times. She went out of her way to do it, if you know what I mean. If it were just one or two instances I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, but I'm noticing a definite trend of her being more comfortable physically with me. I don't know if any of it means anything, except I think I've now developed a bit of crush on her. It doesn't take very much for me to feel this way since any deliberate physical contact from a female is like a gift from heaven... yes I'm pathetic, I know...
Here's the thing though... she's currently "involved" with two other guys but isn't committed to either of them. They also don't know of each others' existence. One of them is her old boyfriend whom she broke up with due to distance reasons *cough*but they still kind of like each other so it's like they're still together even though they've decided to see other people*cough*. The other guy is decent but also kind of a controlling jerk, and she told me she isn't that into him but likes him enough to stay with him casually for the time being. I think this entire situation smells btw, and have told her as such. She claims she likes things the way they are now. It's her life, right? But it makes her intentions that much murkier. Not to mention severely limits my options here as I'm reluctant to throw my hat into the ring, as it were.
My instincts tell me she's trying to flirt with me but my brain is telling me there's nothing going on here... and I don't trust my instincts in the first place, so yeah I'm 120% confused right now. I think I just need someone to confirm that I'm being delusional. Any volunteers?
