Ok I asked her and she said......

[Danielle]

Dax...i don't think that sounds like a negative response. She seemed friendly and happy. I say stay friendly with her and see what happens.

 

[wolvesjr]

Good for you for taking the chance. Give her your number and then let whatever happens, happen. Don't try to over analyze it or read everything into it

 

[VanillaCreme]

Okay then I expect a full apology from you if he doesn't end up going out with her. It's just a gut reaction I have that she isn't interested in him.

No one is owed any apology. Disagreeing with you doesn't mean she's wrong, and even if it turns out just how you thought it would, patting yourself on the back for a negative outcome doesn't make you look like a hero.

My reaction when I like a guy and he asks me to hang out...

"sure, when do you want to hang out "

Exactly !

This doesn't apply to everyone though. Feelings can develop from friendship. If we knew what would happen in the next moment of our lives, I doubt half of this forum would exist.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Okay then I expect a full apology from you if he doesn't end up going out with her. It's just a gut reaction I have that she isn't interested in him.

No one is owed any apology. Disagreeing with you doesn't mean she's wrong, and even if it turns out just how you thought it would, patting yourself on the back for a negative outcome doesn't make you look like a hero.

My reaction when I like a guy and he asks me to hang out...

"sure, when do you want to hang out "

Exactly !

This doesn't apply to everyone though. Feelings can develop from friendship. If we knew what would happen in the next moment of our lives, I doubt half of this forum would exist.

The girl doesn't even know him, really. Maybe she just wants to find out if dax is a psycho stalker before she actually says yes.

She could have easily told him no in a nice way, but she did not. I would run with that and see where it goes. If nothing else, you may just gain a good friend out of this.

 

[Triple Bogey]

Okay then I expect a full apology from you if he doesn't end up going out with her. It's just a gut reaction I have that she isn't interested in him.

No one is owed any apology. Disagreeing with you doesn't mean she's wrong, and even if it turns out just how you thought it would, patting yourself on the back for a negative outcome doesn't make you look like a hero.

My reaction when I like a guy and he asks me to hang out...

"sure, when do you want to hang out "

Exactly !

This doesn't apply to everyone though. Feelings can develop from friendship. If we knew what would happen in the next moment of our lives, I doubt half of this forum would exist.

I don't want the guy to get his hopes up that's all. Or waste all his energy on this particular girl when others may be interested.

There is looking on the bright side and blind optimism.

Maybe the guy could report back on how things are ?

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I am going back and giving her my number, that way she can contact me if she's really interested yet respect the boundary she put up (she said she would be the one to contact me). Please keep in mind she is very familiar with my mom, they've chatted a bit each time mom got our food there for a couple months now. So if there is a reason for a gentle rejection, that's the reason right there.

So what happened ?

 

[SophiaGrace]

There is looking on the bright side and blind optimism.

There's also called a thing called cognitive constriction which is a negative thought process wherein the person cannot see any other option or outcome…

Oftentimes it is seen in people who commit suicide.

So….yeah there's a thing called blind negativism too. Don't just hold one card from a deck of cards aloft and say "This is the only card!" when there are 51 more cards scattered at your feet.

Meaning, don't rule out things that might turn out better than you'd expect.

 

[Triple Bogey]

There is looking on the bright side and blind optimism.

There's also called a thing called cognitive constriction which is a negative thought process wherein the person cannot see any other option or outcome…

Oftentimes it is seen in people who commit suicide.

So….yeah there's a thing called blind negativism too. Don't just hold one card from a deck of cards aloft and say "This is the only card!" when there are 51 more cards scattered at your feet.

Meaning, don't rule out things that might turn out better than you'd expect.

Yes you are right. I hope it turns out good for the guy !

I may be very negative but you have no idea what I have gone thru. If you did then you may understand. I haven't mentioned on here most of it because I don't want to drag up the past or bore people to death.

I wish I had one nice story to think back on but I haven't.