Prime Minister of The Friend Zone

[Anten]

I am only more physically affectionate when I am drunk.

My home life wasn't filled with PDA so it is awkward for me.

 

[passage]

I am only more physically affectionate when I am drunk.

My home life wasn't filled with PDA so it is awkward for me.

Well I'm drunk But in all seriousness, learn to touch women, often. One "trick" I use is to compare hand size, and then grasp (not the right word, but I think you'll understand) our hands together. But, I should mention my goal at this point is mainly sex, not committed relationships

 

[blackdot]

On a more selfish level, female friends have female friends. They can be very good at introducing you to someone and talking you up!

Yeah... I've had them try that on me before. Unfortunately the women they have in mind are not women I want to be with.

 

[Anten]

The girls i am friends with don't have many girl friends and the ones they do have are already with someone.

 

[SophiaGrace]

http://www.quickmeme.com/meme/35neab/

 

[The Good Citizen]

On a more selfish level, female friends have female friends. They can be very good at introducing you to someone and talking you up!

Yeah... I've had them try that on me before. Unfortunately the women they have in mind are not women I want to be with.

Well become friends with their friends and they will have friends... soon this will increase exponentially and you will be friends with every single female on the planet. That will involve a lot of holding of coats though.

 

[Valince]

It's just a fancy phrase for rejection.

 

[suckaG]

LMAO soph. so funny

 

[Anten]

Yeah and I love the phrase, " Well friends in better them nothing".

Girls say they want tostar off as friends but it is hard when you have pitfalls like the friend zone. It seems like there is a lot to go wrong if you start off just trying to be a friend.

Can we get a female's opinion on this?

Edit for post error*

 

[kamya]

I gots a few.
Comic 1
Comic 2

And maybe this one explains what some people think when they are putting you in the friend zone. I find it to be kind of harsh but it was what went through the head of at least the person who wrote it. Still pretty ****** up.
Comic 3

 

[Anten]

That is why it is best to never be a shoulder to cry on unless you are in a relationship or your really do just like her as a friend. Just give words of encouragement and or compliments and keep going.

 

[SophiaGrace]

I've been rejected a lot. 80% of people online who see my picture shortly stop talking to m afterwards. I was rejected by a boy in high school who I asked to prom, he said "I would go with you but I've already been asked." It could've been a lie. Innumerable times I've been told that "I see you more like a sister" by guys, one guy when I said I liked him and had a crush on him said "aw, that's cute" nothing happened. Another guy after I confesses I liked him dissapeared entirely. Two guys my senior year turned me down for prom, one guy because he wanted to go with another girl, another guy because he was religious and prom was after sundown on Friday.

My most recent rejection involved someone that kept saying to me "we'll see what happened" 9 months later. Nothing was happening. So I left.

Then there was the online boyfriend that dumped me because I was "too moody" but then still wanted "benefits".

You don't see me complaining about the innumerable times I've been rejected in life. It concerns me more that its easier to get sex than it is to get a friend. Its greatly disturbing to me.

 

[kamya]

[Edit- possibly ****?]

 

[EveWasFramed]

wth? You cant post that here. (D)

 

[firebird85]

I'm prime minister of loneliness. A fate chosen for me, against my will....

 

[Anten]

What was the picture?

 

[EveWasFramed]

Something innapropriate for the forum.

 

[Anten]

You don't see me complaining about the innumerable times I've been rejected in life. It concerns me more that its easier to get sex than it is to get a friend. Its greatly disturbing to me.

I usually just go here to vent because I have a hard time letting it out other places. Even the smallest thoughts in my head may eat at me and it might not even pertain to women or people. The more emotion i put out through my various outlets the less my emotions drive my actions.

Sex being easier to get than friendship doesn't bother me to much since sex isn't as highly valued to many people.

How do you deal with rejection and how often do you make emotional connections with the guys you are after?

 

[VanillaCreme]

I was hesitant about posting in this thread, simply because I don't really think there's a "friend zone." I know to some it may seem like it, but anything is possible. Anything can come of something. And you never know what will happen. I thought me and this one dude I was close friends with were just that... friends. But later down the road, he questioned me if I ever liked him as more than just a friend. I didn't, of course, but I totally didn't expect him to say anything like that.

 

[Anten]

Well did you go out with the guy?

My definition of the Friend Zone:
There can be many reasons a girl doesn't want to go out with the guy from not finding him physically attractive to not being ready for a relationship but either way he is stuck as being just a friend. In that moment he is now in the friend zone and he can be there forever if she doesn't like him that way but it is hard to tell, which may result in a huge waste of time.