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SophiaGrace
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ardour said:..but it's true.
It's not true in my book…
:/
I dated two guys who were molested as children.
It wasn't their fault…
ardour said:..but it's true.
ardour said:Well, not to start an argument, but I might suggest that what people say and how they really feel are often different. Not that you're deliberately being dishonest, it's just that course a lot of women would want to be fair minded about this issue while underneath still feeling uncomfortable with the idea of bonding to a man with this background. That's human nature and not a poke specifically at women here, I can understand it. If you're genuinely relaxed about it then that's fine, and yes I was interested in opinions.
Solivagant said:ardour said:Well, not to start an argument, but I might suggest that what people say and how they really feel are often different. Not that you're deliberately being dishonest, it's just that course a lot of women would want to be fair minded about this issue while underneath still feeling uncomfortable with the idea of bonding to a man with this background. That's human nature and not a poke specifically at women here, I can understand it. If you're genuinely relaxed about it then that's fine, and yes I was interested in opinions.
Well I think I know how to mean what I say. I am self-aware, I know who I am and I know how I'd feel, and I don't understand why I even have to say that. If you're not going to take me at my word then why am I bothering to tell you what I think? Why even ask for opinions if you're only going to dismiss the ones that don't affirm your worldview? It sounds like you'd already made up your mind.
I'm not trying to start an argument either, or pester you. Honestly I just don't know why I even bother replying to posts anymore when people have predetermined that my personal opinion will be fallacious or disingenuous if it's not what they want to hear.
*Sigh*. Goodnight.
ardour said:Do you have many male friends who aren't already part of your boyfriend's/partner's social circle?
ardour said:unpleasant question:
Would you date the son or sibling of a child molester?
Mr Seal The Albatros said:(I guess this question sort of applies to both genders, but anyway) Let's say a friend is sad over a breakup. How could I help her feel better?
SophiaGrace said:Mr Seal The Albatros said:(I guess this question sort of applies to both genders, but anyway) Let's say a friend is sad over a breakup. How could I help her feel better?
Buy her ice cream of course! (first ask her what her favorite flavor is, then get her a scoop when she's not looking)
…and, also, just offer to be there for her and actually do be there for her, even if you aren't talking about said-breakup.
SofiasMami said:There are too many layers to this question to just give a simple yes or no answer. Since I'm a parent of a young child, my parenting radar immediately goes up on a topic like this...if my gut instinct tells me a particular person shouldn't be around my kid, then they don't get a place in my life either.
-Teresa
ardour said:SofiasMami said:There are too many layers to this question to just give a simple yes or no answer. Since I'm a parent of a young child, my parenting radar immediately goes up on a topic like this...if my gut instinct tells me a particular person shouldn't be around my kid, then they don't get a place in my life either.
-Teresa
There was some clarification in subsequent posts - no contact with the offender, and just to be clear, the person in question isn't displaying any problematic behaviour of his own you can make out.
So the question is would you feel reluctant to date a seemingly normal man who's father was a paedophile.
Mr Seal The Albatros said:(I guess this question sort of applies to both genders, but anyway) I have never and will never be in a relationship, so I don't really have any experience with breakups. Let's say a friend is sad over a breakup. How could I help her feel better?
Naleena said:Girls, I'll start this.
1.What are some of the behaviors that you find attractive in a man on a date?
2. What are some behaviors you don't like on a date?
TheSkaFish said:Question for the Women:
Is talking "dirty" something that a guy just has to do, in order to get a woman interested?
I realize it's something a lot of people like, but not something I think I would like. In fact, I've never done it. But I just don't think I would like it. It would make me feel like I am turning into someone I don't want to be. It seems crude and vulgar and I'm not comfortable with that. I find that it's a lot like how I feel about swearing. It just feels wrong for me to do it. But one thing that I realize about life over the years is that if you stick too hard to ideals, you defeat yourself. Sometimes you do just have to stop taking things so seriously and just play the game. There was an instance that I remember once, where talking dirty would have been appropriate (I was all but invited to) and sometimes I wonder, if I hadn't had such reservations against it, maybe I could have excited the girl. Instead, she probably felt like I missed a softball toss and just made myself look boring.
I mean, I'd like to talk romantically. I'd like to tell someone how pretty I think they are, or something about their features that lets them know I like them but still in an at least somewhat wholesome way. I just don't want to talk, well, pornographically...
TheSkaFish said:I mean, I'd like to talk romantically. I'd like to tell someone how pretty I think they are, or something about their features that lets them know I like them but still in an at least somewhat wholesome way. I just don't want to talk, well, pornographically. I don't like that stuff.
Anyway - maybe there is some way to get around this? Can a guy really excite a woman but without talking dirty? Is there something that a guy can do to take its place?
SofiasMami said:If you're with someone you don't know well and you aren't comfortable talking sexy, don't do it. But if you're in a committed relationship and your partner like it and you don't, there could be some issues there.
-Teresa
ladyforsaken said:No.... not if you haven't build and sort of foundation with the girl or closeness at least. I don't know about other ladies, but I would feel totally creeped out if some guy I wasn't close with or knew well enough were to do that to me.... and it did happen to me just this past week. It was very uncomfortable.
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