Reading others

[Ice]

I have troubles to read others. Not only in english but also on my mother language. That causes huge problems to make any kind of frienships or romantic relationships.

I do not know how could I learn to read what other people means? People are not genuine at now a days so how people knows what others really means?

People who says "e-mail for me" and then boot you as a spammer, people who says I listen to you and then makes opposite things, we like you means we hate you etc.

How on earth people can learn to read what others means?

Anyone else have troubles to read other people?

 

[SophiaGrace]

try being courteous and kind. I've found that people enjoy you listening to them rather than listening to you.

Also, buying a body-language book wouldn't hurt...

 

[ThinkPositive]

Unfortunately, a lot of these things are culturally specific. I'm lucky I'm an American, and people here are pretty into being open and saying what's on our mind, ha ha. On the other hand, my family background is Japanese and I tend to be a little stressed out around Japanese people because the cues are different...they expect people to "read" things that aren't obvious (to me, anyway).

I think the best thing is practice. Also, it could just be part of your personality, and maybe it'd be good to just let people know how you are? I tend to be a bit *too* honest and blunt sometimes, but people who know me know that that's just the way I am and I don't mean any harm by it. That said, I still continually work on trying to be a bit more sensitive to others' needs so I don't accidentally offend people!

 

[lomojojo]

Just be and let it be.. Capizci? Comprende?...

 

[Ice]

Thanks for the answers, I have to think about them.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Poeple aren't so hard to read. The more you know about yourself the more you'll understand other people.
They're all just humans. They all have doupts, fears, insecurities, and not really knowing what **** either
is really going on either.