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Post something that you regret doing in your life
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user 135671
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Compromising my music for quick cash
Trusting people. Believing people are generally good.
Yukongirl
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Bam111
Abandon your fear. Look forward.
Never being able to forgive, love and appreciate my self-worth for the longest time I had major self-esteem issues I regret it among other things but that one I wish I instilled in myself sooner in life
They say you shouldn't regret anything in life, and that it's all part of the learning experience.. but almost everyone does.
I regret letting a certain someone go when I was younger. A lot could've been so different...
I regret letting a certain someone go when I was younger. A lot could've been so different...
TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
Getting OCD as a kid.
Giving up on life during my freshman year of college, causing me to choose the wrong major, because I thought the world was going to end.
Getting into a lot of pointless, stupid fights about ultimately nothing.
Wasting almost ANY time being sad or angry during the 1990s and even most of the 2000s, when life was mostly better than today.
Not understanding how basic things like masculinity and attraction worked or why.
Not trying to get good at something when I was younger.
Getting stuck on complaining instead.
Not interacting with certain family members enough while I still had the chance, and telling them how I really feel (good things), just taking it for granted that they knew. I should have said it more.
Giving up on life during my freshman year of college, causing me to choose the wrong major, because I thought the world was going to end.
Getting into a lot of pointless, stupid fights about ultimately nothing.
Wasting almost ANY time being sad or angry during the 1990s and even most of the 2000s, when life was mostly better than today.
Not understanding how basic things like masculinity and attraction worked or why.
Not trying to get good at something when I was younger.
Getting stuck on complaining instead.
Not interacting with certain family members enough while I still had the chance, and telling them how I really feel (good things), just taking it for granted that they knew. I should have said it more.
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HellsLittleAngel
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I don't have regrets, just learned lessons.
How does one not have any regrets? Haven’t you ever, in any way, hurt someone? Deliberately or not? Of course I have regrets. I would definitely do things differently if I had the time over again, and would still make mistakes and have regrets, but hopefully a lot less.
HellsLittleAngel
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If I had regrets, my life would've taken a different path and might've not had what I have today. I'm grateful for everything, although I've had some hard lessons to learn in life, as we all do. I used to have regrets. Now, I just have learned lessons of what not to do and what to do next time.
It would be easier to list what I don't regret.
- Being honest
- Not kissing up to people
That's about it. I regret pretty much everything else.
- Being honest
- Not kissing up to people
That's about it. I regret pretty much everything else.
You’re answering my question without answering it.
If no, fine, if yes, you’re not sorry?
HellsLittleAngel
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No matter which way you cut it, it's still the same answer. I don't have regrets, just learned lessons. To further elaborate and explain myself, yes, I've done all the above for reasons that I don't regret, but have learned my lessons with things.
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As one should learn lessons, but doesn’t that fact mean that you’d do it differently next time and so in hindsight would do it differently if you could go back and have that chance again? Isn’t that the same as regret? If not, what exactly IS regret?
HellsLittleAngel
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A regret is something you wish you could change and I don't wish to change anything. Yes, I'd do it different next time, but I wouldn't change it for the past, which would be regret.
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Something, being actions towards others included, so if it were possible, you’d still hurt people the way you did the first time? Really? This is what I mean by having regrets and not necessarily the choices of my path I’ve taken.
HellsLittleAngel
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Are you reading anything I'm posting? I'm telling you I have learned lessons, which means I would do things differently from here on out vs. the past. I don't regret what I've done in the past, but I've learned to deal with things differently, for the future. If it was necessary for me to hurt the people I have in the past, yes, I'm sure I'd hurt them again without regrets.
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okay maybe you’re a saint so what I said doesn’t apply to you which is fine. I am reading what you’re saying but I don’t believe anyone is that saintly. You say “necessary” to hurt those people, which I understand there are times that has to be done, like breaking up with someone for example, but you’ve never purposefully said or done something to deliberately upset or hurt someone? Maybe you haven’t and that’s awesome. I know I have and if I was able to, I definitely would go back and not do what I did.
HellsLittleAngel
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Oh, I'm definitely not a saint in the least. Definitely a sinner. Seems very difficult for me to explain this to you, as you're just not grasping or understanding what I'm saying. I've done all the above...I've hurt someone by a breakup, I've hurt someone by telling them how I felt, I've hurt someone by being assertive/aggressive, and I've hurt someone by cutting them off from my life. There's so many different situations and scenarios that call for different types of behaviors. I'm a very authentic and honest person. Although I have respect, I don't beat around the bush or sugarcoat anything. I tell people exactly how it is, quite clearly so that they understand.
