Rules

[keeper]

Hi everyone,
What do you think about setting down a few basic rules to which every member of the forum should be bound?

 

[lonelygirl]

No. Why? There are enough rules in our lives. Rules keeping us down, controlling us, manipulating us.

You could propose a Lonely Life Constitution but it should be up to the PEOPLE to ratify it. If even ONE person says no, we should find out WHY rather than pushing ahead, like this illegal war on Iraq's people.

 

[keeper]

I think that rules are needed in our lives to avoid somebody keeping us down, somebody controlling us, somebody manipulating us.

I've just made a proposal, now let the PEOPLE say what do they think.

 

[keeper]

What? If one says no to a rule, then it is illegal? So, every time the parliament approves one law and the opposition doesn't agree, the laws are illegal? This is a new principle of juridical civilization which is completely unknown to me. I guess it comes from some place called USSR...

 

[Blue Sky]

Well there is a type of introduction about conduct when you first join the forum. But what sort of rules do you suggest Keeper? I think that some of the language used at times on this forum is terrible, specially when it's an open forum and young children could be reading it. Maybe something could be done about that.

 

[keeper]

Yes, BlueSky, I think one rule must concern language: i.e. no vulgarities, no insults, no "flaming".

 

[Blue Sky]

Yes I agree with you Keeper, maybe another rule could be set about sticking to the topic at hand, because sometimes a good topic to post about goes right off the track and ends up not being discussed about at all.

 

[bjarne]

Just keep posting and voting to provide feedback on this idea (including ideas for what the rules might be). Rules are, basically, required and probably should be stated in some way on the site. There's already some implied rules like: no spamming, no excessive cursing, bashing or advertising (except for signatures or highly related resource tips). Some other rules might be taken from the www.moviecodec.com rules : ie. no encouraging of suicide (obviously), posting of peoples personal information. But rest assured, I do not wish to be strict and narrowminded when making the rules: just want to rule out certain things that are highly annoying to the majority of people (ie. ****ography and spamming) and things that are illegal (ie. warez, suicide encouragements and death threats).

 

[keeper]

Bjarne, I don't think that implied rules are effective. "No excessive cursing", for example: I'd rather say "No cursing". Who's to judge when/what is excessive?

In my opinion, people get to this forum to seek union and not division. To feel comfortable, not to be "flamed" or insulted because of their opinions/choices. The life of someone which feels lonely may be full of negative days, so in my opinion this place should be safe and provided with some basic rules in order to guarantee members and guests the due respect.

 

[NewBirth]

Bjarne, I don't think that implied rules are effective. "No excessive cursing", for example: I'd rather say "No cursing". Who's to judge when/what is excessive?

In my opinion, people get to this forum to seek union and not division. To feel comfortable, not to be "flamed" or insulted because of their opinions/choices. The life of someone which feels lonely may be full of negative days, so in my opinion this place should be safe and provided with some basic rules in order to guarantee members and guests the due respect.

whos gonna judge whats cussing?
and then whos gonna judge whats flaming?
and then whos gonna judge whats negative?
and then whos gonna judge whats dividing?
and then whos gonna judge whats safe?
and then whos gonna judge whats respectful?

on & on
the more rules u bring in the worse its gonna get cuz u have different peeps judging
y should we have to worry about all these regulations?
arent most of our lives already overloaded with them? i mean most of us are pretty lonely & suffering because of lifes & societys regulations & here u wanna bring them in here 2???

havent u even realized ur going to add s-t-r-e-s-s to whoever has to moderate 2? u know they come here to get away 2 just like the rest of us

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please bjarne dont make us walk on eggshells in here too
the rules r just fine the way they r

 

[keeper]

So, New Birth, welcome to the Wild West.

 

[keeper]

Let's start cursing, etc. Do you think that vulgarities, flaming, etc. will relieve you from stress? Wonderful! I wonder why I have never thought about that.
Do you believe people are lonely because of rules? Ok, so let's break every rules, we'll never be lonely again.

 

[teach]

I like rules, and voted for them. I like a little regulation based on what's acceptable to all viewing audiences. We're sometimes surprised by what we hear coming out of kids mouths, but we have ourselves to blame by showing them that poor language is a standard that we live by and accept. Many who have difficulties participating in social areas are turned off and become more shy by foul language, while others are unable to communicate in society because foul language is the only way they think they can talk, perhaps thinking poor language is normal actions of a close society. It's not, and doesn't have to be acceptable.

 

[Blue Sky]

Also, having some set rules will make it easier on the moderators when they have to make a decision about a certain post.

 

[NewBirth]

Let's start cursing, etc. Do you think that vulgarities, flaming, etc. will relieve you from stress? Wonderful! I wonder why I have never thought about that.
Do you believe people are lonely because of rules? Ok, so let's break every rules, we'll never be lonely again.

c now if there was all these rules u want u wouldnt even be able to type so sarcastic & vile 2 me to like this LoL geeze dont be so tense whats the big deal we already have rules y add more

 

[NewBirth]

So, New Birth, welcome to the Wild West.

better the wild west than nazi germany dude

 

[NewBirth]

the point beeeeeeeeeing that we already have rules about cussing & we already have rules about conduct so y add more rules?
lets just keep our happy medium

 

[keeper]

This reply is just because I believe in democracy and freedom of speech.

A place where vile, sarcastic, offensive, whatever, language is allowed and encouraged is a place which hardly will make feel less lonely who feels lonely.
Moreover, if an admin/mod isn't able to guarantee the effectiveness of basic rules, he/she is completely useless and we all should start to ask what's his/her role.

Someone thinks that in this world rules belong to 1933-45 Germany and freedom belongs to Wild West. This belief is in my opinion childish and trivial and doesn't deserve any further comment.

Someone also thinks that this forum is keeping its "happy medium". I'm used to consider only facts and not daydreams, and the facts don't seem to reflect a (unreal) "happy medium".

 

[Princess Cleocatra]

Huh?

Where are these 'rules' you're referring to?? The plain fact of the matter is we need rules and laws in our society because otherwise there will be chaos. Point in fact, look at this forum!!

the point beeeeeeeeeing that we already have rules about cussing & we already have rules about conduct so y add more rules?
lets just keep our happy medium

 

[NewBirth]

This reply is just because I believe in democracy and freedom of speech.

A place where vile, sarcastic, offensive, whatever, language is allowed and encouraged is a place which hardly will make feel less lonely who feels lonely.
Moreover, if an admin/mod isn't able to guarantee the effectiveness of basic rules, he/she is completely useless and we all should start to ask what's his/her role.

Someone thinks that in this world rules belong to 1933-45 Germany and freedom belongs to Wild West. This belief is in my opinion childish and trivial and doesn't deserve any further comment.

Someone also thinks that this forum is keeping its "happy medium". I'm used to consider only facts and not daydreams, and the facts don't seem to reflect a (unreal) "happy medium".

i didnt say anything about letting peeps cuss & anytime anybody does its dealt with. i could never know what on earth more u want. really i dont c where its necessary 2 b so insulting in ur response either but because i 2 believe in free speech i wouldnt say u didnt have a right 2 say the things ur saying.
the happy medium isnt even really a medium its more on the strict side. i mean if peeps cuss then its deleted. no idea what else could be done.