Shall I Leave?

[kamya]

How's the job situation coming along?

By the way, what are you doing to fix anything, or are you putting all of the relationship problems on her?

I'm not sure guilt is the only reason you are still with her. I have a feeling that you are starting to become too dependent on her for everything.

In all honesty it's probably not even her fault that you are becoming distant. You're the one who is changing. There's nothing wrong with that, but don't make the issues about her. If its not working then leave.

Hell, show her this thread. See if that changes anything. If it gets worse then good, it will make your decision that much easier. If things get better then good job, you figured out what being open with the other person does for a relationship.

I'm just offering another way of looking at things. Good luck.

(edit- Also, how are you so sure that she is happy in this relationship? What are you doing to get closer to her? If you do decide you want to make her happy, you already know what she wants. )

 

[nerdygirl]

You and me both!

It's a combination of guilt and uncertainty. I hate the idea of regretting it and I hate the idea of causing her to be as miserable as I think it will make her.

If those are the only two things you can list as reasons to stay, it is time to go.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Maybe you might try getting her off sexually. I know people are saying
get all emotional N stuff like...but sex plays a role in a realtionship
and a lot more than you might think. ( it's a new way or change of looking at things)

My GF gets sexually fustrated and when she gets fustrated it effects
her behaviors hence effects our relationship. Even though we have sex
all the time and my sexual needs are met, her sexual needs arn't met.
I know what it's like when I get sexually fustrated...so there you go.

I have an orgaism everytime I have sex...my gf has multiples too
but she wasn't having those big orgaism that releaves her.

Thats what I've been doing lately. Totally getting her off.
It's not dirty, naughty. ( guilt on this front too). She's more
mellow and we dont argue after she gets sexually releaved.
For a couple of weeks she was fustrated and bitchie.
Well, we're adults so we communicated about such
matters. It took me a couple of weeks to figure out how to do it
the way she totally likes it and releave her.