So annoying!!!!!

[Rebelwithoutacause]

I get along with some people and I make them laugh, i feel so good, it's great but then there's me with the crippling shyness which just kills me almost and I get frustrated it's so annoying why am i like this with some people but fine with others? the others are usually people I can't be 'cause there teachers or something
I know i can be confident but some, most things I life I do are impossible, can't open my mouth

 

[Sci-Fi]

I'm the same way. Working in customer service I have to talk to people. Some people I can talk to about **** and then some I barely can carry on a conversation with. I'm waiting for them to leave. But then outside of work these same people I'll chat with I'll try to avoid or barely say two words to. It's all about comfort and chemistry with people. There are some people we are naturally drawn to, others make us turtle up.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I know exactly what you mean.

Sometimes I can be really social, and sometimes, I struggle to even say a few words. It's like there's an invisible wall up, preventing me from speaking.

 

[blackdot]

I'm that way in regards to gender.
If it's a guy, I can talk about almost anything.
If it's a female, I lock up and go blank.

Some women will try to start conversations with me and all i can do is shrug.

 

[Masson]

For me it depends if I have anything in common with the person , if not its like my brain doesn't care to give a **** about them and I can't think of anything to talk about but if there's something in common I open up instantly and talk/be myself.
That can be a problem because what I like and the way I am is hard to find , people here tend to have a very narrow mentality ( not calling any one stupid ).

 

[Tiina63]

I have the same problem. It is so good to meet someone where the conversation just flows without effort, but this doesn't happen very often. Usually I have to struggle to think of things to say.

 

[Sute]

It happens.
Really the only way to get better at talking to people is to try and do it more often, and work on it.
Do you feel as if the people you have problems socializing with might judge you or not regard you as highly as some other people? For some, that is the cause of shyness.

 

[whispers]

I used to be very shy. When talking in public, the first thing i said is ``i'm very nerveous about this so please forgive me if i turn beat red and start struggling with my words'' that made me feel more at ease because it was out, and the audiance were more relaxed.
In person, i usualy get shy with men who have a certain charm, i automaticly become red, to me honesty is the best, so i say funny stuff like, ''is it just me or is it suddenly very hot in here?'' If i'm too shy to do that, i imagine that person with a huge flaw, like a giant pimple on his back , or his underwear too tight cutting circulation to his penis... anyway, that gets rid of the shyness, i just have to controle the urge to laugh.
I'M never shy because of intimidation, meaning that the person in front of me is better than me.... because no one is me, i am pretty cool, and that person probably has herpes.

 

[Lonely in BC]

People who are filled with a sense of arrogance or false sense of security are the ones who leave me uncertain as to what I should say. I do respect (and will listen to) the individual who has experience and confidence in what they say, it's the blowhards who speak first and think later that leave me shaking my head- I'm not really known for being politically correct and I've discovered that my bluntness often isn't appreciated by those who are part of "the old boys network".

Socially- I just smile and nod, even if I have no idea as to what is said.

 

[big-jim]

I sometimes stutter or mumble or say the wrong words while under preesure if im thinking about it too much... Especially on radios, phones ect

 

[WhiteTiger Lily]

I can hold a decent conversation with people, but its hard for me to initiate conversation >< Also, I get paranoid that I'm secretly annoying the person and back off.

As far as the OP, maybe you aren't fully comfortable around some and are more relaxed around others?