So it seems...

[dreamer8]

From my observations,it seems as though those who have been successful in bringing change to themselves,or are a work in progress seem to...band together to help others. I've also found that there's a friendship that ties these people together.

I'd like that type of friendship.

However,I'm on the dark side (no,this isn't a Pink Floyd,or Star Wars reference...)

But it makes sense;why would someone happy want to befriend someone who's sad,or trying to pick themselves up by the bootstraps? I don't know,it's just a thought.

I'm thankful for these people who read my threads,respond with clear thought and insight and motivate me to keep breathing.

If I ever get myself pieced back together,I'd like to join the crusade to helping others who were in my place...

 

[kelbo]

I think for some it is easier to be around people who want to help themselves because they are positive and easy to get along with. An old boyfriend of mine used to be so depressive...and as much as I wanted to be there for him I had to let him go, he was so bitter and down about his life and no matter what I tried to do (even just to hang out) he wouldn't be able to even try to have fun. He was manipulative if I didn't see him (used self-harm and threats of suicide against me) yet when I did every single word that came out of his mouth was bitter and sour. I tried to stay in contact with him even after we split up, every email/text would be about how he was hurting himself, biting his lips till he bled or something or other.
I didn't know what to do really, I had tried my best to help this person or even just to be there in his life and I did care about him but it is so hard to keep watching somebody destroy themselves and keep themselves down there.

I would hate happy friends though, haha, as horrible and strange as that may sound. I would of course like people to be happy - but it isn't nice to be around somebody whose life is perfect when yours is just cruddy, surely?

I think it is good to help others and grow together as individuals, and friends.

 

[SophiaGrace]

And when you fall you'll find youre the one that has the strength to stand up again.



Just remember that. And keep your ears open and listen when you are in pain. Pain means youre unhappy with your life. When you're sick of being unhappy youll do something about it

"Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the achievement of one's values."
-Ayn Rand

 

[dreamer8]

I think for some it is easier to be around people who want to help themselves because they are positive and easy to get along with. An old boyfriend of mine used to be so depressive...and as much as I wanted to be there for him I had to let him go, he was so bitter and down about his life and no matter what I tried to do (even just to hang out) he wouldn't be able to even try to have fun. He was manipulative if I didn't see him (used self-harm and threats of suicide against me) yet when I did every single word that came out of his mouth was bitter and sour. I tried to stay in contact with him even after we split up, every email/text would be about how he was hurting himself, biting his lips till he bled or something or other.
I didn't know what to do really, I had tried my best to help this person or even just to be there in his life and I did care about him but it is so hard to keep watching somebody destroy themselves and keep themselves down there.

I would hate happy friends though, haha, as horrible and strange as that may sound. I would of course like people to be happy - but it isn't nice to be around somebody whose life is perfect when yours is just cruddy, surely?

I think it is good to help others and grow together as individuals, and friends.

I'm generally not so negative. There's just periods where I go through a dark depression. Sometimes it seems like when I need people the most,they run for the hills. Not so much in this place as far as threads are concerned,but in real life...yeah.
It seems like I just can't keep friends around when I get depressed,and I refuse to wear a mask when I am sad.
I just realized I put this in the wrong section...